The main chapel is full. The overflow is full. People crowd the lobby and spill out the door into the parking lot. They are in suits, jeans and t-shirt, overalls, sports jerseys, dresses, skirts. Up front, a casket sits open—a sixteen year old boy lays as still as I have ever seen him. His father wracks with sobs. Kenny Chesney pours through the speakers.
As the music ends, our football coach steps to the podium. The aisles between the rows of chairs are full of kneeling football players. “Our mantra—these boys have heard it hundreds of times—is ‘we, not me’.” He clears his throat, “and that is how we will get through this.’
We have lost 3 students to two separate wrecks in the last five days. Today was the first of three funerals I will attend before Sunday. At least the ones I know of, at this point. Over 500 people were there today. The latest wreck happened last night.
You never know when time is up. You never know what might happen next. You never know when you are seeing someone for the last time. Our world turns fast.
A few weeks back, we lost one of our poets. Libithinia. I miss her comments. She always made me smile with what she wrote at my place. She was always generous in giving out love to other poets.
After events such as the ones we have just faced here at school, it is great to reflect on the things we are thankful for. It seems apropo that Thanksgiving is upon us in the States.
Another of our poets, Laura, has an annual project that i have participated in previously and in this years as well. In her words, ‘The Mega Mobius Gratitude Quilt was an idea born in November of 2009 when I had an MS exacerbation that made it difficult for me to communicate through words. I did not know at that time if proper syntax and missing words would return, but I wanted to write something for my Thanksgiving blog post, because I felt so deeply grateful for the goodness in my life. I was concerned that I would not be able to write it myself, so I asked friends and family to be earth angels and help me out by sending me brief messages about what they were grateful for in the moment. Thus began an annual tradition, and thankfully speech and the ability to write returned not long after the first quilt was created. This year more than two hundred people came together to create the quilt with me! You can view the quilt on November 22nd, Thanksgiving Day in the United States by stopping by here. Additional offerings are welcomed in the “leave a comment” box beneath the post.’
‘We, not me.’
We get through this life together. Besides poetry, that is what we celebrate. Life in verse & We are not in it alone. We are together.
Welcome back. Welcome for the first time. We have been here waiting just for you.
Welcome to OpenLinkNight, my name is Brian Miller and I am your host this evening. If you are new here, let me tell you how it works:
- Link the poem you’d like to share–old or new, on any topic (one per blog, please) by clicking on the Mr.Linky button just below.
- This opens a new screen where you’ll enter your information, and where you also choose links to read.
- Once you have pasted your poem’s blog url and entered your name, simply click submit.
- Let your readers know where you’re linking up and encourage them to participate by including a link to dVerse in your blog post.
- Visit as many other poems as you like, commenting and liking as you see fit.
- Spread the word on the social media of your choice
- Enjoy mingling among others, tasting a bit of verse from around the world. Have fun. Make a friend.
See you out on the trail. ~Brian
happy openlinknight everyone…i am still at work but will be around soon to see what you got….see you out on the trail…
woohoo!!! happy openlinknight everyone… i’m so ready to hit the trail…smiles
see you out there claudia…smiles.
Heartbreaking, touching, and beautiful, Brian. 🙂
smiles. i found my peace saturday…all will be well…and we will make it through….but you can call me beautiful any time…smiles.
Okay Brian…tears for your loss, tears for your students and their families and the emptiness that so many must be feeling as they try to come to terms. Lib was an amazing light in my timeline as well…also knowing when I needed a dose of the fae to liven things up…so many tears for her…here’s to the pub, the poets, and the words that help us deal…
sounds like a great toast to me…smiles.
Love this place, love this community, thank you!
hey me too…smiles.
As you say Brian – we are all indeed in this together and it’s easy to forget that sometimes. Thank you for the reminder in your touching opener above. I am very happy to be here in such company.
smiles. i need that reminder at times myself…travel well the poetry roads this evening….
I think we all do Brian – especially in the darker times you’ve described. I can’t imagine. Sending love.
love received.
smiles.
Great intro this week, Brian. Very thankful for your friendship and encouragement. Your pal, Mosk
mosk, the poetry machine….smiles…
Yay! I finally made it back again. New blog. Missed this place
it is great to have you back brother…and love the new place….
thank you, Brother Miller
Welcome back, Luke *hug*
thanks Beth
for those of you who read my poem already…hubby’s surgery went well today…he was still a bit dizzy from anesthetics when i visited earlier but he’s doing good..
woohoo….now that is what i like to hear….smiles. so happy for both of you…was praying, as you know.
Glad to hear, Claudia. Been there a few times with my husband, I know how hard it is when someone you love isn’t well. Wishes for a speedy recovery!
*hug* So glad he is doing good.
Thank you with my wholeheart Brian for mentioning the gratitude quilt… several poets in our community have already shared their offerings for the quilt and I am grateful for every word.
no sweat. i think it is a great endeavor and i cant wait to see what it looks like…smiles….
Hi Brian, so sorry for all of the sadness. When someone young/teenage dies, it is beyond redemption. So so sad.
I am posting my poem from the other day (about death) really. You’ve seen it as you look at everything.
So sorry to hear about Libithiana. Your advice is very good. Something I am coping with a lot lately = one does as one ages, and then one hears of (or has) losses both near and far. k.
most definitely…i know people in our community here who are having surgery, or like claudia whose hubby has it, or other relatives. there are those sick, or struggling after the storm. we all have our struggles we are walking….we are not alone. smiles.
great intro as well bri…it’s terrible to lose young people way before their time and Lib as well…she def. left many encouraging comments and had a wonderful heart…many open questions…but love the ‘we, not me’ attitude…
This is so sad… but “we” is the only way. I had no idea about Lib!! I am shocked. What happened?
http://lkkolp.wordpress.com/2012/11/20/internal-gratitude/
i am really not sure….it happened about a month ago…
ps… I may be late viewing poems this week as I’m in the midst of “stitching” OUR fabulous quilt together:-)
I can’t wait to see it… thanks so much, Laura!
Time is flying by as the holidays draw near. Here’s to wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving. I am thankful for this site and all the fab poets that make it so successful.
Cheers!
ah thankful for you as well gwen….happy thanksgiving…
DAMN B…you are quite possibly the most uplifting buzzkiller I know !!! I am well known for Breaking It Down and leaving the seeds to grow in the remains and in your voice, so many times I have caught the beauty lingering in the ashes
today I offer you a view from the pulpit…my pulpit…and I am burning with the fumes of man as if we preached what we practice
Much Love B…….MUCH
uplifting buzzkiller….ha…i try man…its just whats on my heart…the light and the dark…love me or not….if we preached what we practice….snort…
Hi Brian, are you serious? You have three funerals from kids in wrecks? I am so sorry. I know when a student loses their life, the whole town mourns as they know it could have been their own child. My poem is about the loss of a grandfather who meant the world to me and also the grandmother he tirelessly adored and helped, to her and his dying days. Truly, elderly love is unselficious and wise and our young need more of them in their lives. They carry on in you the love(soul), the lessons and patience taught. BBL tonight.
i lost all but one of my grands by the time i was 10…i have few memories of them…i loved your piece….very moving….
Another serious poem this week. Here’s the link: http://bit.ly/GBdjLk
welcome james.
A heavy burden of sadness for all of your students and yourself to carry into this difficult season full of stress as well as pleasure. Your words are, as always, wise ones, brian.
Poem is up, but chores are calling. Will be back later this evening.
were they at least fun chores? more garden work?
wrapping birthday presents for the grandson and taking care of the old man, whose back its out–yes, we take turns. ;_)
ha. that sounds like a cycle you need to break…smiles…
so you have a birthday this weekend?
actually, last week. He is nine. Hard to believe.
oh they grow up quick surely….
Life is so fragile. Your post reminded me of http://www.looseleafnotes.com/wp/2012/11/golden-ticket-draws-a-wealth-of-community/ which just took place because our community was thinking ‘we.’
cool…will check it out…
Heart breaking, Brian, any time someone dies, but especially youth. And Claudia, my best to you and your dear husband. May his recovery be swift.
And Laura, kudos to you!!!
I am posting “Snakes In The ‘Hood”….a poem written upon the fierce occassion of a nasty struggle in our neighborhood. A mural by the acclaimed international artist, Pierre Roti , admittedly a difficult allegory, was destroyed by a preacher and some church members here in Atlanta. They did this without permission, claiming the mural was demonic, satanic. There was no interest in discussion, resolution. The gray painting over this mural has divided this area completely. The issues of what constitutes public art is also at stake.
My apologies to anyone who hates snakes, but this poem sprung from this struggle.
Lady Nyo
snakes in the hood….haha…i love the title already….though it sounds a bit more serious than that….will be over shortly….
Very sorry for all these recent losses, Brian.
thank you ma’am
Hello, everyone. Yes, Brian, you have had your share of losses. So hard. And Claudia, glad to hear that the surgery went well for your husband. Whew! I have posted my poem and now am going out to the movie theater with granddaughter; but I will be running around later taking a look at what people have written. Wishing those of you in the US a Happy Thanksgiving….. see ya later.
so what did you go see?
A little late in replying here. We went to “The Odd Life of Timothy Green.” It was in the ‘budget theater’ for $1. A nice feel-good kind of story with a message. I didn’t know if granddaughter would sit still for it, but she did the whole time. It really WAS good.
nice…its on the list to see….
Sorry guys but tonight I’m ranting a bit.
So glad to have you all in my life #GivingThanks
Cheers!
rant on….smiles.
Brian, Thank you. Losses have degrees depending on our individual perspectives. Gratitude is the one thing we can all agree on. *hugs* to you.
Happy OLN, I’m so grateful for such a wonderful event.
true that…and hugs on yours as well…
happy OLN….
Brian, you have the Gift of Words and Wisdom, and I am happy to be part of the we that hears you use them . We, not me.
I am riding an old poem in this week, one that you have already seen. We rarely take down our walls like you do above. My protagonist, sadly, is learning to keep them up.
i dont keep many walls…i figure that way its me people love you know…the good bad and ugly…smiles.
Brian, Such a tragedy, my heart goes out to the families and friends of these young people. Appreciate your being here with us tonight, hopefully our stories and poetry will lift spirits a bit. Sharing a piece about someone I work with that always brightens my day. Glad to be here this week. See you inside!
he seems quite the character….really enjoyed meeting him in your words….
We get through this life together. Besides poetry, that is what we celebrate. Life in verse & We are not in it alone. We are together.
So beautifully said, Brian!!
thanks margaret….
Oh, yet another death. Your coach is right, of course, but what a heartache.
thanks for the email as well..i found my peace on saturday…writing of my meeting with death was my symbolic release…it does hurt, i am not numb…just reassured…
I’m so sorry for your loss Brian. A tragedy for all involved. I hope you can celebrate their lives and find comfort and peace. We are all together~ this Thanksgiving, time to squeeze our loved ones tight!
we are trying to do just that…celebrate their lives….and my prayer has been that we are done….for now…a break from the death….
We have so much to be thankful for. . . and there are so many people in need of our encouragement and support who are not as fortunate or who are hurting. . . May we count our blessings and look to the interest of others this Thanksgiving. . .
In reading the post above, I am grateful that death does not have the last word. . .
The poem I submitted this week, http://www.robbiepruitt.com/2012/11/death-becomes-her-death-corps-de-ballet.html, was for a surrealism poetry prompt, “Building on the tradition of Dali’s “The Faces of War,” can you re-imagine the coming world,” I decided to look at “Ballerina in a Death’s Head,” by Salvador Dali (1939), http://www.wikipaintings.org/en/salvador-dali/ballerina-in-a-death-s-head, and the war between death and life.
In imagining the world to come, it is clear that death has to be overcome before redemption and restoration. The war against death here is a dance where beauty begins to emerge from the “shadow of death” itself. While death seeks to become us, or overcome us, it can be transcended in resurrection in the beautiful dance with the author of life, The Author of Resurrection.
death def does not have the last word robbie…that is right…smiles…
Nothing like a rousing run of poets through the Pub doors for OLN. Once or twice I managed to slide in under #10, but after one minute I often am over #20; like the Oklahoma land rush, open ended, slam one in and go poetic grazing to see what the others have brought!
enjoy your grazing brother….the opening of the door can def be a mad house…smiles…
Good evening!
good evening….
Always so much better as ‘We, not me.’ We are all so much stronger, united. So sorry for the loss of the young ones Brian. So much to live for. I had no idea about Libithinia either. Life turns on a coin. Had no idea you fought MS either too. A lot to cope with this past week for all of yous school and those connected through friendships and family. Great post to remind us to keep counting our blessings.
MS – that was Laurie…
we are much stronger together because life comes way too fast…
Brian, a horrible tragedy for their families, you and the community. I am so sorry. I am wishing a happy thanksgiving to all who celebrate. Being in Mexico, we have our own private celebration. This year it will be fish and shrimp.
I noticed there aren’t any moths right now, and that is how I came by this piece of writing.
Pamela
fish and shrimp….can i come over? or just trade you a bit of turkey and stuffing? smiles.
Happy oln y’all… heartbreaking to lose a loved one… Especially kids man… feel for their fams…
yeah man….was great to have so much support at the funeral yesterday….the ones this weekend will surely be the same….lotta love going around….that is a good thing…
you got something for us this week? or have i just not got to it yet?
Nothing this week buddy… Groovin with a monthly posting now…
works for me…i will just sit on my hands for a month…smiles…
Death, as cruel as it is, often lets us see more clearly. We once again open our eyes to the beauty that surrounds us… our families… our friends… the little things that make us smile.
Brian, I hope you will never lose the ability to smile. How brave you are to write such a painful and beautiful piece… thank you for this.
I am not sure if I will be able to write something today… not much time on my hands and my computer is giving me a headache. Just wanted to wish you all a happy Open Link Night… and after reading those powerful words, I had to comment.
Have a great time… wherever you are! 🙂
thanks for popping in reguardless and i hope that headache goes away for you….
p.s.: made it. short one, but oh well.
thanks for the inspiration!
woot! love it…smiles.
Hi Brian, I wrote and read a poem, hope that’s OK?
writing and reading is what we are all about…
That’s OK then 🙂
Brian, it is never easy when such a young life is lost. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.
thank you tracie….hey if you stop back in…your link wasnt working…left you a comment on your other post…let me know and i will fix it for you…
Brian, so sorry that your school and community are undergoing such grief. I too have participated in Laura’s quilt. It’s such a good exercise to write what we are thankful for. Thanks for hosting today.
thanks myrna…always great to see you…and i agree…
Brian, that is so sad. I nearly didn’t post my link, but what the heck. It’s the only poem I have written recently that I am halfway pleased with. It’s had a bit of editing since I posted it but nothing radical.
oh i am glad that you did..i enjoyed your dip toward the bard…and thoughts around his thoughts…
Your post is sad – I remember the shock of losing a fellow student when I was 20 – but also strong and reflective and positive. Thanks for hosting and sharing.
Man… sometimes stuff just grabs you and sits you down hard in your chair. Brians story did that to me this afternoon. I try to be good to people, regardless of anything and everything that’s going on in this crazy world. I don’t always succeed, but I try.
It’s funny, too, how something somebody says will get you going, and you think, “I need to write about that.” Then you start typing and this weird crap comes floating up on the screen, and you just blink, and say, “Go figure.”
weird crap comes out all over the screen…ha…yeah sometimes, but now you have me intrigued sir…
That was the plan, my man!
Sad news but a lovely post, Brian.
thank you kristina…smiles.
Thank you for sharing, Brian. Very beautiful…and very sad. Thank you for reminding us about life.
hey you…smiles…hope you are well sir…
grabbing dinner with the family…will be back in just a bit to catch up….
Thought I had not seen you around so much on people’s blogs. You are usually so interactive. Death is another life but those of us left here on the physical are in turmoil over our loss. Been there. Only the passing of time will heal. But we can come out of it understaning more and more and at ease with our life on this planet.
true words sir…time heals…and death is a new life…and i give what i can when i got it…smiles…
My heart breaks for you and the families. You’re in my prayers Brian! Thank you for taking the time to man the bar, sometimes it’s in the company of friends that the soul finds the balm that helps to ease the harshness of this fallen world. I’m glad to see you here! Blessings to you!
thank you apryl…much appreciated…and it is good to be among friends for sure…
thank you for pouring out your generous heart here, Brian.
its the best thing i got to give…smiles.
Made it to Australia! And my post made it up, but my connection is so spotty that commenting will have to wait until I find another hookup.
yay! glad your travels are going well…australia…ah i so want to go…did you read bryson’s book in preparation? smiles…
It’s been ages since I read that book, but I know the one you mean. I have been reading some great stuff about places on our route, though, including Tony Horowitz’s “Blue Latitudes: Boldly going where Captain Cook has gone before.” I highly recommend it!
Three funerals in one week? 😦 Thank you for sharing your stories with us. One really can’t be reminded enough that you never know how long you have here on earth.
truth…and thank you ma’am
So sorry to hear of all these losses… life can be so short, and now is the time to stop and be grateful for the moments we have. Sending love out to all.
thank you kelly…we should def be thankful year round…not just a holiday because life is quick and oft unpredictable….
I can tend to feel sorry for myself over small, stupid things and reading your intro reminds me of what’s really important… it’s so sad to hear of any life ending unexpectedly, but when they’re so young it feels worse… and then for it to be close to the holidays… I really feel for their families…
thanks serena…cant imagine the holidays will be much fun for their families…though maybe being together will be a balm to them as well…
Welcome back. Welcome for the first time. We have been here waiting just for you.
You broke the dam, again, I’m going back to the drawing board.
awww….hugs…come back…smiles.
Since the person this poem was written for went to heaven in 1997, it is not a recent sadness but no less a sadness, nonetheless, as death does have a tendency to leave us with more questions than answers. The person in my Eulogy was truly a model for anyone who ever knew her…
http://poeticlicensee.wordpress.com/2012/11/20/eulogy-to-catherine/
yes he was…really like that one of yours…always good to see you lindy
Brian, heartbreaking; but I hear the strength in numbers…beautiful.
Somedays, the words and the image all come together and I can’t imagine a finer space to share. I think I’ll be hanging my hat here for a spell 😉
My offering for today is here:
http://basho42.blogspot.com/2012/11/gratitude-in-motion.html
we’ll take good care of your hat…smiles…
Condolences for the loss. Your post is a sobering thought. Life is a fragile gift, and one that does not end in this world. May those who perished be granted eternal joy.
For all the sorrows of this world, there are many things to be thankful for.
true that…and thank you…life is a gift, we choose what to do with…
Phew! It’s busy here tonight. Brian so sorry for these losses but grateful for your availability to be used and poured out to touch so many with your very gracious spirit and heart in the real world and in the bloggy world. Thank you, Brother. Heading over to your place then hope to be awake after My Girl goes to sleep to make the rounds. Pray you and your family can have a wonderful Thanksgiving. It is all precious in light of the brevity and fragility of our lives.
smiles…i still have boys awake right now…being on break and at gramma’s house has its perks it seems…ha…their cousins just got here an hour ago, so it may be a long night…smiles…
Brian your story touched me deeply. Loss at this time of year is terrible. It affects the holidays for the families forever. Sorry I haven’t written or linked this week. Life overtook me and I’m finding it difficult to keep up. I have an idea for something inspired by Claudia’s photos but just couldn’t bring it to fruition.
I’m wishing everyone at the pub and around the world a bounteous thanksgiving and a new year full of blessings and gratitude. Have a wonderful holiday!
i wish you a very happy thanksgiving gay…life will do that at times… let the words come when they will…
Brian…my screen cut off the above comment so I thought you were playing on words…Thanksgiving gay…like Thanksgiving day 🙂 even your words after supported my perception… lol
good morning poets…getting a cup of coffee and will be out on the trail in a minute..
good morning claudia….
heading to bed myself…
see you all in the AM….
Brian…knowing from the outside how devastating MS is I for one have to give you props!
Thanks 🙂
hey man…the MS comment was from Laurie…smiles…
Excellent turnout. Posted a piece I found in my draft section. And I had thought I posted it and linked up a few weeks back lol Look forward to the reads.
fred…whassup brother…how are you doing?
very true brian, much to give thanks for brian and much to be aware of – our prayers and thoughts and best wishes
thank you sir….viewing paris through your eyes is a healthy balm…smiles.
Ouch, sorry, Brian. I was going to post today, but after such a sad speech in the bar, I offer a moment of silence in remembrance of those we lost who will not be able to celebrate a Thanksgiving with us this week in the USA — and elsewhere in your traditions.
sabio….mad props to you man…thanks for coming by my place even when you did not link…appreciate that man…happy thanksgiving man
We not me…as always your words are inspirational. Condolences on your losses, life is so very precarious, so much sadness! Wasn’t able to comment over there on your poem, enjoyed your unique insights both here and there, thank you.
smiles…thank you…did you have a hard time commenting? let me know i will look into it…
Saddened to hear of the recent losses in your life dear Brian and my heart is with the families of the young students.
You are an inspiration to us all Brian and I thank you for your part in this excellent community.
Love Anna :o]
thank you anna….
Thanks for sharing Brian.
thanks irene…
good morning poets….make my way around as soon as i get some coffee in me….smiles
Am still grappling myself. Did a quickie just so I’m in! Way slow coming into this. By this week I hope to complete my comments on those I had not responded. Thanks Brian!
Hank
glad you are here hank…smiles….what are you grappling with?
My computer connections. The cursor wouldn’t move and I had to reboot about 4 times before it worked. It would be ok for somewhile whence I took the opportunity to post before it bothered me again. Did my best to post comments in yours and Pat’s ( I missed one of yours) but sadly I didn’t return comments on many others. I’ve invested in a new laptop so it’s ok now. Thanks Brian!
Hank
Yeah, I made it in time before the expiration this time!! LOL
Happy Open Link Night everyone! 🙂
good to see you sir…
Touching post. Sorry to hear about all the loss.
why thank you sir….
I love this community of poets! I only wish I could come around more often…. Very sorry for your loss, Brian . I am familiar with the sorrow and I grieve with you. ..((hugs))) See you later out there.
~Free
smiles….always good to see you…
good evening…made it back and playing catch up…. hope everyone has a wonderful wednesday..just so…smiles
Hi Brian–Thank you for tending bar and being such a beacon of kindness–I participated with the Gratitude Quilt this year–found it through another blogger–love all these connections 🙂
very cool…