E.E Cummings once wrote – ‘It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are’
This statement is one I genuinely believe in, and as a subject ‘growing up’, and all its glorious peripheries seem to me to be fertile ground for poetic exploration. After all this is something that each and every one of us has experienced, felt, loved, enjoyed, and endured.
Well, Happy Saturday to all. My name is Stuart McPherson and once again it’s an honour to be here and tending the bar! I have to admit, I struggled to think of a prompt this week, and I mean I REALLY over-thought it. You guys were a whisker away from getting a prompt about the peculiarities of caterpillars…seriously

Public Domain Image ”Insects, their way and means of living”, R. E. Snodgrass used courtesy of Wikimedia Commons
So, whenever I’m stuck like this I stop and I think- ‘What is going on around me’ or ‘what has inspired me recently’. Well, this week it has been one person, Sharon Olds.
Now, the poetry of Sharon Olds is so powerful, such an honest document of her life that I couldn’t help be moved by it. There are many different examples of her work I could reference that so adequately reflect that feeling of ‘growing up’, but what better life event to show this but giving birth.
The poem below is taken from her book ‘The Wellspring’ first published in 1996 by Random House. For me it shows a moment of realisation, a moment of knowing that life has been changed forever, and in this instance, that the narrator has reached a moment of true adulthood.
Her First Week
She was so small I would scan the crib a half-second
to find her, face-down in a corner, limp
as something gently flung down, or fallen
from some sky an inch above the mattress. I would
tuck her arm along her side
and slowly turn her over. She would tumble
over part by part, like a load
of damp laundry, in the dryer, Id slip
a hand in, under her neck,
slide the other under her back,
and evenly lift her up. Her little bottom
sat in my palm, her chest contained
the puckered, moire sacs, and her neck –
I was afraid of her neck, once I almost
thought I heard it quietly snap,
I looked at her and she swivelled her slate
eyes and looked at me. It was in
my care, the creature of her spine, like the first
chordate, as if the history
of the vertebrate had been placed in my hands.
Every time I checked, she was still
with us – someday, there would be a human
race. I could not see it in her eyes,
but when I fed her, gathered her
like a loose bouquet to my side and offered
the breast, greyish-white, and struck with
minuscule scars like creeks in sunlight, I
felt she was serious, I believed she was willing to stay.
SO- maybe there is some relevance in my pondering on caterpillars after all, what with the metaphor of childhood (the caterpillar) to the moment of growing up (the butterfly).
But in all seriousness, and something I mentioned earlier, is that this feeling of ‘growing up’ is something we all experience at some time in our lives. It is also different for all of us. It may have happened whilst you were at school, or the moment you lost your job, the moment you got engaged, the moment you first left home….it could be anything; it is extremely subjective but we all feel that transition; we somehow know that the world has changed and suddenly we have reached adulthood. And that is my point and my inspiration for this prompt.
Right then, lets get to it.
This week I want you to write a poem all about ‘growing up’. This could be interpreted in a number of ways, such as:-
- The moment you realised you were no longer a child, or conversely, the moment you realised you were an adult.
- Write about what ‘growing up’ means
- A situation where you HAD to grow up (what happened, why?, what did you feel?)
- A comparative poem- being a child v.s being an adult
- A poem about ‘not growing up’
- A poem about your own child growing up
- Write about the relationship with your siblings as you grew up
- You could even write about life-cycles! write a poem about that peculiar caterpillar if you want to!
Take this as an opportunity to be creative.The prompt is wide open.
WHAT TO DO NEXT
- Write your poem and post it to your blog
- Add a link to your poem via the ‘Mr Linky’ below
- This opens a new screen where you’ll enter your information, and where you also choose links to read. Once you have pasted your poem’s blog URL and entered your name, click Submit. Don’t worry if you don’t see your name right away
- Read and comment on other peoples work to let them know it’s being read
- Share via your favourite social media platforms
- Above all- have fun!
See you out on the trail.
Stuart McPherson http://www.stuartmcpherson.com
happy saturday everyone…a wonderful prompt stu…
Happy Saturday all!…Cool…the pub is OPEN!…hope you enjoy the prompt!
nice prompt man….we all do it at some point, so no excuse to writing on that one…smiles….and some of us fight it as well…i might accept growing up completely at some point…smiles…fun prompt man…cant wait to see what people come up with….
happy writing…see you out on the trail…
Cheers Brian….yeah…i fight it for sure!….tbh- it seems to get worse as I get older!? & likewise….exited to see what folk come up with!
On reflection I could have done so much more with this prompt, but the irony here is that at times I have a lot of growing up to do myself. I was impetuous when I saw the hint for the prompt this morning and rushed off and wrote…
Childish Vanessa? You? Surely not…..he he.. 🙂
*blows raspberry*
Not gonna happen….EVER! (as my husband rolls his eyes behind my back…I see that!) 🙂 Seriously Stu…you know I love this! Thank you!
So i got an E.E Cummings book for xmas…wow…that guy was OFF THE SCALE!!
cummings is amazing….have one of his books as well…great with word play and creative delivery…
A wonderful prompt… thanks for sharing that poem, Stu, It is so real.
Glad you like Laurie… I’ve only recently discovered Sharon Olds… She is amazing (I’m a bit in love with her…shes 70, but just look at her!) Her poetry is so honest, just says it! Warts and all….
Thank you for the wonderful post Stu ~ I actually thought about writing the first time I held my son (like your poem) but thought that until now, I am still learning about motherhood ~ Anyway, my post is up ~
Happy Saturday to everyone ~
Happy Saturday Grace… To hold your child for the first time…hopefully something ill experience one day soon…. Can’t wait to read your poem
Really a good prompt, Stu. Could write about many things, but had to pin it down to one. Very nice article you wrote as well.
Thank you Mary…I really did struggle. Thank God for Sharon Olds!! And caterpillars 🙂
No new inspiration, but I’ve posted an older poem which expresses a sad experience of growing up. Here’s the link: http://bit.ly/VUwXds
Thanks to Stuart for hosting Poetics this evening. His poem is deeply moving.
a great re-run james….felt your words again in it….and yeah, stu did a great job with his as well…
Great to see you James, and thank you for your kind words. I haven’t read this one of yours before – so excited to see it- heading over ASAP
Hey Stu – I also really love Sharon Olds. She is one of my favorite poets. I have been lucky enough to hear her read several times here in NY – she is a very good reader also–and has many beautiful growing up poems of all kinds.
I will think about this, and don’t know whether I can post today, but will try to get something up by tomorrow if not.
Thanks. k.
Hey Karin….yeah I’ve become slightly obsessed with her!!! I’ve watched quite a few of her poetry readings online, but nothing like seeing her in the flesh!! Cool to see you as always and I’m sure you’ll come up with something great!
Wonderful prompt Stu, so much potential!
I’m posting a poem which somehow was in the provincial English exams in British Columbia (who selected it I have no idea). I only learned about it because one of my nieces took that exam – she opened her booklet, and nearly fell off her chair when she saw she had to do a multiple-choice and analytical essay on a poem by her uncle!
I will get on the trail myself later tonight… looking forward to it.
haha very cool story sam…and i imagine it gave you a stir the first she told you of it as well….
I bet she nearly fell of her chair! That is awesome though. Great to see you Sam, look forward to reading and maybe I’ll bump into you out there!
Always moved by your prompts Stu. Love that Sharon Olds selection too.
Well that’s cool of you to say PL! I’m glad you like the Sharon Olds poem- she is pretty incredible
Always a cool Saturday when Stu kicks things into poetic gear; made me wax a bit regarding my ancient career as Actor, what motivated me, then lured me elsewhere. Love these Bio-glimpses into each other’s lives.
off to run some errands….be back in a bit to read some more….
I guess the caterpillar prompt would have been too challenging, at least for me. Thanks for this doable prompt. And thanks for hosting.
Hi Myrna- great to see you, and i’m pleased you find something in the prompt to get your muse going!
Busy times around here Folks, so I might not make it out onto the trail until Monday – but I will get round. Thanks to Stu for the great prompt, and for putting my poem into the linky.
My poem relates three incidents that really happened to me – not in the order written. The joys of an all boys boarding school….
Tony, your poem was awesome…one of your best I think
What a wonderful post! I don’t think I’ll have time to write something new on this topic, but here’s an old limerick that fits the bill:
What Will I Be When I Grow Up?
By Madeleine Begun Kane
Ev’ry decade I change my career.
The first used my musical ear.
I tried lawyering second,
Till humor scribe beckoned.
What’s next? I just can’t wait to hear.
What Will I Be When I Grow Up?
ha….its an interesting road when it comes to jobs…cop, counselor, teacher, finance, training….just to name a few…common denominator for me is people….
I think I’m a bit the same Madeleine
Great prompt! I could have gone several ways with this one, but ultimately decided it dovetailed with a poem that I’ve been working on in my head for a few days but that I couldn’t seem to solidify as to direction. This prompt brought it all together. Thanks. Peace, Linda
Right then Dversers!…time for this old man to hit the sack!…some REALLY strong poems so far, HIGH QUALITY….so…i’ll leave you with this (well, especially for BRIAN & NATASHA!)
actually making myself laugh…..what have I BECOME!! ha ha
i will have you know i watched it all the way through just to see if you spliced in a picture of you on all fours scampering around the house…ha
sleep well, you done well today stu
It is a great prompt…all too easy to be grown up sometimes, and others…we could all use a little immaturity from time to time…wink
bed time here as well…be back in the morning for the overnights…peace poets
I made it!! Trying to find a different angle than I have used before. I dunno. I like it. Thanks for the Inspiring words, Stuart.
Hey Susan! I v much enjoyed your poem…thanks for stopping by and sharing!
late again..this took awhile because there were so many possibe ideas, but this is the one that gelled…I will catch up, I promise..;)
Great prompt. Thanks, Stu!
Child/children – always a rich theme.
Morning all! Very cool t wake up today and see we have quite a few overnighters! heading out on the trail to read right now!
Spoilt for choice I think with this. Much thanks for it.
A day late, but I finally made it. Spent too much time watching football yesterday!
I hope y’all enjoy this one; it’s one of the fiorst “songs” I ever wrote.
Have a great Sunday!
Charles- it was a BEAUT!!
Thanks, Stu! I’m glad you enjoyed it!
happy sunday everyone…. just catching up with your poems.. it’s snowing over here!!! was on a long walk and now an apple crumble’s baking in the oven…can it get any better…? smiles
Snowing here too!, apparently the UK is gonna get a good bit tonight and tomorrow which means one thing…SNOW DAY…there will 100% be so much snow that I wont be able to get out of my house and go to work- FACT 🙂
its in the low 70s here….shorts…working outside….building a fort with the boys…we are destined not to have snow this year…sigh
if you believe the weather forecast, it looks like this part of the world will disappear under a blanket of snow in the next days..wish i could send you some bri..
It’s rained for two days here, and the snow we have here in Massachusetts is fast disappearing. Am sure we will get more, after all this is New England! Stay warm and safe, Stu & Claudia!
Gaaa! I just lost my original reply. Sometimes I loathe WordPress. Anyway, what I was trying to say is that I don’t believe in growing up. I believe in evolution, a Buddhist kind of thing that makes us responsible for the world we create because we have to come back to it. The problem is, “adult” don’t get people like me. They make assumptions and put labels on us. They forget the joy and acceptance of everything and everyone that we naturally have as children. They create this unnatural society and promote it with fake philosophies and labels. I once had a boss, for example who told me I had better learn to “play the game” and that “everything is political.” I never, ever want to be like her. Anyway, I’ve got a lot of poetry on my website, “Weaker than Water.” If you go under the labels of “aging” and “death” (separately) you can see what I’ve already written. I’ve got an entire book that practically focuses on death. It’s called “Poems from the Battfield.” Thanks so much for the prompt. It made me remember and re-state my beliefs.
Hey! thanks for the comments. I don’t believe in growing up either, and definitely that we evolve, I just think there are things that happen along our way that are more memorable, have more effect on our evolution than others. I also think that as ‘adults’ we get swept up in this world of rules that for some reason we try to aspire to or live by, and in doing so, we miss so much. And as for your old boss? yuck….. nice to talk to you!
Stu- it’s one of these things where I’m making my poem worse and worse in the re-writing! I should have posted it last night, now not sure what I’ll do! k.
Hi Stu – agh – got it now, more or less. k.
Karin, I enjoyed your poem v much! heartbreaking but beautiful
it is a powerful poem karin..
this is just right for the moment !…how good to have a place to get it out there! … the weather is getting colder up here so we expect snow soon…the Weaver probably has some already…looking forward to a great poetry read now.
just read your piece geraldine..interesting thoughts…enjoyed
I was compelled to write something yesterday based on the events of the past few days for me. I wouldn’t exactly call it a poem, more of a capture, as seen through the eyes of a 5 year old and the adult she became. A bit personal, but it’s where I am stuck at the moment. So glad your prompt fit this, as it gives me an opportunity to share a bit of my story. Thanks, Stu.
thanks for sharing a bit of your story with us Ginny…your Aunt Helen sounds like she’s been a wonderful woman
i am sorry for your loss ginny…
Thanks Claudia & Brian, appreciate your thoughts.
No sadness, only warm memories of family gatherings over the years–food, laughter and always lots of music!
I love this prompt, Stu, but had to let it gestate for awhile. There are many directions it could have taken. Clearly, I was still a child, but with an adult insight, at about 4-5 years of age. A neighbor’s death prompted this memory.
i am sorry for the loss of your neighbor…i love the sensory detail in your piece though V
I am so often struck by, how much we don’t change.
Or maybe it’s just me and my knobby knees!
Charity, i LOVED your poem….and you’re right…there are elements present in us that NEVER grow old
Thanks for the encouragement Stuart. I shared this with my students, they enjoyed it as well.
WOW! Sharon Old’s poem is electrifying! GREAT prompt, Stuart. I will be back…..
Cool, Sherry!, Sharon Olds is GREAT isnt she?….glad you liked the prompt!
well Poets, with 61 poems posted,I have to hit the hay!, ill be stopping by in the am to see f we have any overnighters!…as usual, blown away by the quantity AND quality of the poems posted over the weekend. Sleep tight y’all.
dream well bro…nice job
alright…got through 64…be back int he AM to see if there were any in the last 40 minutes…times ticking….see you manana
Finally made it right round the trail. There’s some really strong writing out there.
I’m too late to link up but I wrote so I thought I’d provide a link here just in case anyone wanted to read it
http://llmcalling.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/growing-up.html