Hello, dear fellow poets and pub-goers, both regulars and newcomers. Marina Sofia here with you tonight. Come in, relax, let me mix you your favourite tipple and tell me about all your plans and hopes or concerns for 2016. I don’t believe in resolutions, but I do believe in making gradual changes, especially if it’s something that will support your creative habits.
As I bid you welcome, I also have to bid you goodbye. I will retire from my pubtending position, although I will still join in occasionally with prompts and Open Link Nights. I have loved meeting you all and your poetry at dVerse Poets, and I cannot even begin to tell you how helpful it has been for me, encouraging me to share my poetry with other people.
The last two years or so have been rather difficult for me personally and there are many changes coming up in my life this year, not least moving to another country. I have decided, however, that poetry and writing will not take a back seat this time, as they so often have done in the past. Instead, I will cut down on my paid work until the summer and learn to say no to the many other projects and volunteer activities I am involved in. Sadly, that includes dVerse, because I simply don’t feel I can do it justice, give your poems the attention they deserve and make thoughtful comments rather than just a meaningless ‘Nice one!’.
I’ve always admired the people who have such single-minded focus and purpose in life, who can really get things done, without distractions. It’s much harder for those of us who lack this singularity. I like to think of us as multi-talented: there are so many possible ways in which we could go and we don’t want to give anything up! However, the next few months may be my last chance to finish my novel and to put together a selection of poems for a chapbook, so it is time to give up those other things which are fun but not strictly necessary…
What are you prepared to give up for your art or your goals? Or do you think single-minded focus is a myth or a brainwashing device to make us work harder?
I close with a fragment from a poem entitled ‘The fear of poetry’ by Muriel Rukeyser, which I think best describes why poetry is so important to me.
Now, when it is hard to hold
for a moment
the giant clusters of event and meaning
that every day appear,
it is time to remember this other kind of knowledge and love,
which has forever been a way of reaching
complexes of emotion and relationship,
the attitude that is like the attitude of science
and the other arts today,
but with significant and beautiful distinctness from these —
the attitude that perhaps
might equip our imaginations to deal with our lives —
the attitude of poetry.
Björn Rudberg (brudberg) said:
First of all.. thank you so much for your faithful attendance to the bar.. we all know that life means making priorities.. but that poetry can never take a back-seat once you’re hooked.. To finalize a novel and get out a chapbook is no small undertaking, and I hope you are successful and come back to visit…
As for resolution I have none… we have just started out second round in making a book of short stories in the Stockholm writing collective I’m pleased to belong to… So I guess it will be that and the dVerse writing that will fill my nights when I’m not working… 🙂
MarinaSofia said:
Sounds like you have enough to be getting on with as well… That’s true, the bug of poetry, once it bites you – there’s no going back! Thank you for being such a wonderful pub faithful, it’s been a pleasure working with you behind the bar!
tinkwelborn said:
I think we’re all ‘Addicts’ in here…. 🙂
kanzensakura said:
I am going to miss you. I understand and applaud your decision. Balancing family, career, volunteering, writing….leaves very little time for self. I hope this decision will give you time to you enjoy the you that you are. Knowing you will be visiting helps a lot. And moving to a new country! Moving across town is hard enough but this is a much greater challenge and I know you will meet the challenge splendidly. My very best wishes for you and your family. Your voice will most definitely be missed. A big huge hug to you.
MarinaSofia said:
I’ll also be visiting your site, Toni, your Japanese inspirations resonate so well with me and your poetry is always a joy to read.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m afraid you may soon be sick of my voice, as I don’t intend to go quietly! 😉 I’ll be back whenever I have the time.
kanzensakura said:
To paraphrase Mr. Spock, I do and ever shall, enjoy hearing your voice. Thank you and please do, visit my site. I hope you will continue your Finding Time to Write blog. I so enjoy that. I often read it on my tablet and cannot comment. I shall have to do more reading on my puter so I can comment. Your choices in books, reviews, and fun photos of libraries and houses are always so interesting and enjoyable. Thank you for your hard work and for your presence. So happy that you will not be a stranger. 🙂
Victoria C. Slotto said:
We will miss you, Marina, and thank you for the inspiration you have provided during your time as pub-tender. May the future fulfill your hopes. A dislocation, such as you are facing, is no small thing–but at the same time it offers so much possibility.
I find myself needing to cut back on many things that I love (painting, for example) and turning down those I would love to try (like quilting). It’s not easy to find a balance, even when one is so-called retired…big joke. Along with age, comes a waning of energy and it takes effort and intention to remain active in all spheres: physical, mental, spiritual and relational. One thing I’m working on is to allow my home to be a little less perfect…decided not to do floors today! That’s tough for me.
MarinaSofia said:
I’ve often heard this complaint from retired people, that they are busier than ever before. I suppose it’s even harder when you are doing things you like to decide what to cut down on. There are no ‘shoulds’, only ‘would really like to’.
Grace said:
Thank you for your time and devotion to the pub ~ We will miss you but we understand the challenges of real life ~ Get on with the novel and other writing for publication ~
Right now, I am balancing work with family and writing on the side ~ I can’t even think of publishing or writing a full book of stories or poems as it is very demanding ~ Maybe in the future, who knows ~
I will you all the best in your journey ~ Keep in touch ~
MarinaSofia said:
Of course writing is very different from publishing, so who knows how long it will take or indeed if I am ever successful! But I’d never forgive myself if I didn’t try really hard. It’s been so delightful interacting with all of you, I’ve learnt so much from each one.
Kathy Reed said:
I understand the rationale for your decision and I am not nearly as busy; I am retired, my family grown, and I’ve learned I cannot spread myself thinly anymore. Therefore, with my volunteering, painting, other interests, being involved with family, I find it difficult to dedicate time needed to immerse myself more in writing and dVerse, I am lucky to be able to participate once weekly these days.
Good luck in your new adventures and chapter in your life. You will be missed. Thank you, Maria Sofia, for your kind comments and for sharing your poetry with us.
MarinaSofia said:
It’s always hard to give up something you love, but life is all about such hard choices, isn’t it? I didn’t mean to sound so dramatic and farewell-ish – I’m sure I’ll be popping in often enough!
Bryan Ens said:
I do hope that you will find the time to pop in at least occassionally. Your voice here will be missed. Best of wishes for the upcoming chaos in your life (and may it not be too chaotic!)
MarinaSofia said:
Thank you for your good wishes. I refuse to think of the chaos ahead (ostrich policy) and will just focus on writing for now.
Bodhirose said:
I wish you the very best, Marina, and will look for you to post now and then. I completely respect your need to cut back on activities that aren’t currently supporting your goals. Much success to you for all of your future endeavors.
Gayle ~
MarinaSofia said:
Thank you, Gayle. I wouldn’t say that dVerse wasn’t supporting my goals to a certain extent, as it so often pushed me out of my comfort zone and got me to try new things (and see how others handled it), so that’s why it’s hard to give it up.
Gabriella said:
MarinaSofia, you will be missed at dVerse. You have been a great and supportive team member. I am glad you plan to be around periodically. Good luck with your new endeavors!
MarinaSofia said:
You are very kind. I know you had to cut back on your involvement as well because of your other commitments, so you understand perfectly.
Mary said:
Marina Sofia, I definitely will miss you around the pub. Your loyal creative presence blessed us for as long as I was here; and your poetry so often had a unique slant, which I enjoyed. I do know that sometimes life circumstances cause a person to reconsider all of one’s involvements; and I am sure your decision is well founded. I am glad that you will be here periodically as well. I wish you well…..with all that is ahead of you!
MarinaSofia said:
Thank you, Mary, I always appreciated your prompts and your way to get us focused on respect and reciprocity. I have really basked in the warmth of the dVerse environment, and will always pop in for a drink when I can.
mishunderstood said:
Thank you for all that you have contributed to dVerse. I can appreciate the time that you have devoted over the years tending the bar and sharing your expertise. Finding a balance can be so difficult, but in the end I think we realize our priorities in certain times. Looking forward to your occasional visits.
Best of luck with your novel, chapbook……and all that lies ahead.
Mish 🙂
MarinaSofia said:
Thank you, I’m going to need all the luck I can get!
writersdream9 said:
Marina, thank you. I was hoping to get to know you better here but I am sure we will read each other around. Best wishes in all your endeavors. At this stage of my life, I am pretty focused on just a couple of things but when I was younger, the fast pace of life did not allow that at all. There are some perks to the aging process!
MarinaSofia said:
Good to hear that – so perhaps I will become less ‘distracted’ soon. Enjoy dVerse and your writing!
writersdream9 said:
Thank you!
Myrna said:
I’m glad to visit today in time to thank you. I can imagine how busy you will be and have been while tending bar, writing, living. I hope you move where you will be happy. You serve as inspiration to me. I often allow other things to have priority instead of my writing. Best of luck.
MarinaSofia said:
Ah, it’s such a common fault or tendency, isn’t it? Because writing doesn’t scream ‘urgent’ all the time, I suppose. Thank you for your good wishes.
MarinaSofia said:
Right, guys, time for bed for me now. Besides, this is becoming too embarassing for me, with all the goodbyes. I thank you for your good wishes, but I’m not going into exile. You won’t get rid of me that quickly!
I wanted to hear from you as well what choices you have made, what things you have given up for your writing, so don’t let it be all about me, cos that just makes me blush!
kanzensakura said:
I do not do resolutions. Instead, I take a couple of weeks to meditate and think and choose three words for my new year. In the past they have been words like hope, faith, focus, share, dream, write poetry again, live the dream. This year for the new year, my three words were there all the time, in front of me. Happy. New. Year. When you visit, you will find the post about these three words. 🙂 Happy New Year to you, happy new home, happy new thoughts, happy new friends, happy new returns to us here at dVerse. and oh yes, my bottle of unfiltered sake is always under the bar and at your disposal. お大事に!Odaijini!
Adriana Citlali Ramírez said:
Best of success!
I am one of those who has many passions. I work in science related stuff, and writing is my main hobby. The rest gets time here and then. In some periods in life, other interests take over (like photography or painting), but science and creative writing are the two constants in my life.
Thanks for your contributions at dVerse.
http://vivinfrance.wordpress.com said:
Oh dear, how we will miss you and your thoughtful attention and comments. But I wish you every success with your projects and hope that your way is smooth and trouble-free.
ViV x
kanzensakura said:
Good night all. Off to shovel some more snow!
lynn__ said:
Just want to say that I appreciate the pub-tenders here and the time you all devote to dVerse…many thanks! May you succeed in getting published, Marina…sounds exciting and hard work too, I’m sure. Poetry is a hobby I love and will continue to enjoy but cannot devote as much time as I’d like to 😉
whimsygizmo said:
Marina, I wish you all the best – with your novel, with your chapbook, with your family and your joy factor for the year ahead. I don’t do resolutions either, and the word I’ve chosen for this year is Delight. I wish you joy and delight, as you devote yourself to your craft.
De
ghostmmnc said:
I haven’t been here long, but in this time I was happy to meet you. Thank you for your kind comments and encouragement along the way. I’ll miss reading your poems. Wishing you much success in your writing, and future plans. Peace }I{
Sabio Lantz said:
Fare Thee Well !
” I simply don’t feel I can do it justice, give your poems the attention they deserve and make thoughtful comments rather than just a meaningless ‘Nice one!’.” — loved that one ! You lived it.
tinkwelborn said:
Hello, Goodbye, & find time to write. I’ve been ‘hanging’ around here for about 4 or 5 years… off and on… and have enjoyed your poetry/poems upon those occasions…. (I think I also follow you on Twitter) stay in the loop & always keep your mind on the idea. Bon Voyage (not goodbye)…. see ya around. 🙂
MarinaSofia said:
Thank you so much for your wishes and your kind words! I hope you haven’t just been ‘hanging around’ and feeling too shy about participating… we are a friendly crowd, even if the constant lack of interface between Blogger and WordPress and other platforms means it sometimes takes extra perseverance to leave comments.
tinkwelborn said:
Oh, I’ve participated…. been part of the D’Verse Anthology. Just very occupied with publishing two books…. found it is indeed another time-eater. Good luck w/yours and I’ll be seeing you around (so long as I’m still kickin’) : )
MarinaSofia said:
Ah, so you were a bit ‘before my time’ then… I came at the tail end of the Anthology.
Snakypoet (Rosemary Nissen-Wade) said:
I’m glad you’re not disappearing altogether! And I applaud your priorities. As for your question – I have written poetry since early childhood; it feels almost as natural and necessary to me as breathing. Indeed, not to do it would be a kind of death. So the question of sacrifice simply doesn’t come into it. Poetry is what I can’t not do, and also I have a life which happens against that backdrop or within that context. 🙂
MarinaSofia said:
Beautifully put! Seems like you have figured out your priorities. I stopped writing poetry for something like 20 years because I got so busy with other things.
Candy said:
Best of everything until we meet again. Your kind words have always been an encouragement to keep writing. You will be missed.
lillian said:
Have only been moseying up to the bar since mid-December and do so appreciate the commitment it takes to be a “tender.” So many thanks and best wishes. In many ways life is about division — what part of ourselves to put here, to give there, to relate here etc. Too often we’ve used way too big of cuts so to speak, spread ourselves thin and then stress rises, and the body, mind, relationships suffer. So I applaud you for making a tough decision that will provide strength and more time for you. And how wonderful to read the caring words of so many here!
MarinaSofia said:
Thank you indeed for your words – and you are right, I’ve been overwhelmed by all the lovely words and wishes. This really is a nice crowd, isn’t it?
Ayala said:
You will be missed and I hope you fulfill your dreams. Thank you for your time at the pub and visiting on my blog. Wishing you good luck.
Sanaa Rizvi said:
Aww man! I m gonna miss you Marina 😦