To be white, or straight, or male, or middle class is to be simultaneously ubiquitious and invisible. You’re everywhere you look, you’re the standard against which everyone else is measured. You’re like water, like air. People will tell you they went to see a “woman doctor” or they will say they went to see “the doctor.” People will tell you they have a “gay colleague” or they’ll tell you about a colleague. A white person will be happy to tell you about a “Black friend,” but when that same person simply mentions a “friend,” everyone will assume the person is white. Any college course that doesn’t have the word “woman” or “gay” or “minority” in its title is a course about men, heterosexuals, and white people. But we call those courses “literature,” “history” or “political science.
— Michael S. Kimmel, Privilege: A Reader
Good day, poets! I hope you are all having a good year thus far poetically as well as personally. My motive to share the quote above was to bring to attention the elephant in the room: Privilege. We all come from certain privileges which make it easier for us to live in an unequal world, maintaining certain standards and freedoms that come with birth or our social conditions. Such privileges denote the way we express ourselves and our behaviors in different domains of life including personal relationships, politics, writings, etc.
If the quote made you a bit uncomfortable, that is the idea because we become so habitual to our ways of living that we do not even pay any heed to these privileges or wonder about their existence anymore. But these privileges actually create the norm which perpetuates the kind of world that we live in. As we know, our world is marred with discrimination, oppression, and repression of certain identities, particularly those belonging to and resulting from a certain race, skin color, gender, sexuality, class, caste, religion, (dis)ability, age, nationality, etc., and not to forget their intersectionality. In that perspective, the conversation over privileges has been taking place for a while.
We may have our own political affiliations and understandings of this current discourse around identities and their rights in a modern world. I am not trying here to push a particular agenda or values but to create a discourse around the idea of checking one’s privilege(s). For many of us, it may come out to be pretty uncomfortable to think about our privileges but it doesn’t have to be so. Because checking our privileges doesn’t mean that they will be taken away from us or we have to apologize for them. Such an exercise would only help in understanding the inherent connection between everyone in the world — it can perhaps help in seeing the social realities through a different lens, understand the different experiences of these realities, while also enabling us to take responsibility and be more participative in challenging all forms of discrimination and oppression.
Poetry often takes into context such issues of social and political significance, since it is such a wonderful way of individual and collective expression. In that regard, I would like to share an excerpt from a poem by an exemplary African-American poet, June Jordan. (Disclaimer: There is a strong explicit language along with some graphic imagery in this poem.)
Poem about My Rights
Even tonight and I need to take a walk and clear
my head about this poem about why I can’t
go out without changing my clothes my shoes
my body posture my gender identity my age
my status as a woman alone in the evening/
alone on the streets/alone not being the point/
the point being that I can’t do what I want
to do with my own body because I am the wrong
sex the wrong age the wrong skin and
suppose it was not here in the city but down on the beach/
or far into the woods and I wanted to go
there by myself thinking about God/or thinking
about children or thinking about the world/all of it
disclosed by the stars and the silence:
I could not go and I could not think and I could not
stay there
alone
as I need to be
alone because I can’t do what I want to do with my own
body and
who in the hell set things up
like this
and in France they say if the guy penetrates
but does not ejaculate then he did not rape me
and if after stabbing him if after screams if
after begging the bastard and if even after smashing
a hammer to his head if even after that if he
and his buddies fuck me after that
then I consented and there was
no rape because finally you understand finally
they fucked me over because I was wrong I was
wrong again to be me being me where I was/wrong
to be who I am
which is exactly like South Africa
penetrating into Namibia penetrating into
Angola and does that mean I mean how do you know if
Pretoria ejaculates what will the evidence look like the
proof of the monster jackboot ejaculation on Blackland
and if
after Namibia and if after Angola and if after Zimbabwe
and if after all of my kinsmen and women resist even to
self-immolation of the villages and if after that
we lose nevertheless what will the big boys say will they
claim my consent:
Do You Follow Me: We are the wrong people of
the wrong skin on the wrong continent and what
in the hell is everybody being reasonable about
and according to the Times this week
back in 1966 the C.I.A. decided that they had this problem
and the problem was a man named Nkrumah so they
killed him and before that it was Patrice Lumumba
and before that it was my father on the campus
of my Ivy League school and my father afraid
to walk into the cafeteria because he said he
was wrong the wrong age the wrong skin the wrong
gender identity and he was paying my tuition and
before that
it was my father saying I was wrong saying that
I should have been a boy because he wanted one/a
boy and that I should have been lighter skinned and
that I should have had straighter hair and that
I should not be so boy crazy but instead I should
just be one/a boy and before that
it was my mother pleading plastic surgery for
my nose and braces for my teeth and telling me
to let the books loose to let them loose in other
words… (You can read the complete poem here)
I also came across these two thought-provoking poems by Michele Bombardier, White Privilege and My White Self Tries To Imagine. Please read them as individual opinions and understandings of the idea of privilege. Along the same lines, here is a short poem by Delhi-based poet, Akhil Katyal:
One day, when he was
about ten or twelve,
he asked his mother
“What is my caste?
Some boys in the
school were asking,
I didn’t know what
to say.” The mother,
got up in the middle
of her supper, “Beta,
if you don’t know it by
now, it must be upper.”
(Side Note: ‘Beta’ can be translated as ‘son’ in English)
Also, here is a thought-provoking one by Michael Morell:
THE DWARF’S SISTER PLAYS GOD
After Karen got her license,
she would take me shopping
with her, always trying to treat me
normal (does that mean I’m not?).
We’d go to Clover or Springfield Mall
and sometimes if she wasn’t buying much,
I’d wait in the car, just along for the ride.
Inside, when people would starelaughpointshout
at me like I was Dylan going electric all over again,
she’d look them dead in the eyes and ask
do you want a picture?
They never answered her, but stood stone silent,
naked and shamed as Adam or Eve.
Welcome to dVerse Poetics! The prompt today is quite open-ended. You can approach the idea of privilege in different ways. You can either seek inspiration from these poets and their poems or reflect upon your own privileges and share them through a tapestry of images and metaphors along with a certain regard to what these privileges stand for in our society. You can also write about a cause which has personal meaning or significance for you — gender equality (women, transgender, and other non-binary identities), movements like Black Lives Matter & Me Too, uprooting class and caste divides, lgbtq+ rights, et al — keeping this one word in your consideration. If not this, you can write about the privilege of writing and expression, with such instruments as literacy, power and electricity, and all the other digital infrastructure available to us.
This is Anmol (alias HA). I look forward to reading your take on this theme. Once you have penned and published your verse, add the link to your post in the linking widget down below. Please feel free to pen down your opinions and ideas in the comments and do not forget to visit and read your fellow poets and share your thoughts with them. I wish you all a wonderful week ahead.
Hello Anmol. this prompt was great to challenge me, and I hope everyone sees it as a way to think through it a lot. I personally don’t think you can use privilege as a way to brand groups of people… privilege is a complicated tapestry we need to understand in ourselves (first) and then maybe see in others. I tried to do this through some metaphors…
I really liked your poem with such a rich array of metaphors, Bjorn. 😄
I am privilege to write and express what I think and feel. I am privilege to live in Canada. I can count so many blessings but I am also aware that many don’t have the freedom and kind of rights that we enjoy. This prompt took me to challenging myself and my beliefs. I wish you all good afternoon or good night or good morning. Thanks HA for hosting.
I think the more we know about the world the more we see how much we can count our blessings… still I think we are allowed to complain about the weather *smiles*
Thank you for participating with such a thoughtful poem, Grace. I’m glad that the prompt worked out for you. 😄
Hi Anmol and All. It’s overcast today, but no more snow has fallen. You have chosen a very timely topic from my perspective, as last night I watched the documentary, “I Am Not Your Negro”, which is based on James Baldwin’s proposed book about the deaths of 3 of his friends and civil rights leaders, Medgar Evers, Malcolm X, and Martin Luther King, Jr. and how each of them were murdered within 5 years time. The format of the movie was video clips of Baldwin himself speaking and mixed media with Samuel L Jackson narrating passages from Baldwin’s work. I will try to create something from that experience.
Your response is so powerful and thought-provoking. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
You are welcome. Thank you for your prompt 🙂
Hello All! A sleepless night for me, now looking forward to a strong coffee, I recently am hooked on a cortado from my travels abroad, I can’t get them here and so am settling for a homemade version…LOL! What a privilege to have so many different coffees to select from. A provocative topic indeed Anmol, looking forward to reading the poets later. Now for coffee! am posting a haibun and haiku for this prompt today, about what I have and don’t have.
I grew addicted to cortado too, and taught the local barista from memory how to do it… now you can find it everywhere in Stockholm….
i never knew it existed and am loving it, that is cool Bjorn that you taught a local barista, I am keen to do that too, I like the milk that cuts the coffee
Your understanding and perspective is valued, Gina. Thanks for participating! 😄
my pleasure Anmol!
First, thank you Anmol for hosting. Second, what a potent prompt! At 72 I have grown up emmersed in all of the blatant prejudiced, and related verbal slurs, they are easy to identify. I have also been exposed first hand the social movements that have arisen to strike down this prejudice. However, I have also been “unconsciously” conditioned by the more subtle prejudices that now are having a social light shined upon them. I am not knowingly prejudice because I harbor no animosity toward people (save Trump). But I grew up with “black” friends, “gay” fellow band members, a “woman” dentist. These were prople I valued as part of my life. I used these adjectives in association with them, without thought of it being a form of prejudice. This is simply how it was for me. I knew the terms that I considered derogatory descriptors, found them objectionable, and didn’t use them, out of respect and decency. But now in recent years, I am exposed to this new environment where even those terms I used, which I had no sense as being prejudice, are considered so. A very confusing time for this old man. Difficult to know if I am PC in my daily thinking, or just hopelessly preconditioned. There are terms today, unfamiliar yo me, dealing with sexuality and gender, the meaning of which, I have no understanding. I am going to have a go at this prompt, and hope I do not inadvertently offend anyone. For all I know, I may have already done so with this comment. If I have, I am genuinely sorry!
Your comment has such a wonderful attitude, Rob! I appreciate that you recognize that we sometimes do not understand certain things or changes that have come up in the discourse. When it comes to gender and sexuality, things can be pretty complicated if someone has been conditioned to believing that gender is equated with biological sex and there are only two forms of sexual orientations. In such a case, it doesn’t mean that one should stop sharing their opinions and talking about these issues. It is all about mutual respect. And if someone doesn’t know what something means, one can research on their own or ask about it politely. This stands true for when we are communicating with someone from other cultures, countries, religions, etc. as well.
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I look forward to reading your take on this theme. 🙂
Thank you for sharing those poems.
What a thought provoking prompt Anmol- thank you. I struggled with whether to tell the story I did, but it’s posted. Thank you all.
Your story created a platform for understanding the subtleties of privilege. I’m glad that you shared it with us. Thanks, Linda!
Thank you for such a provocative prompt, Anmol, which got me thinking. I hope y simple poem meets your expectations.
That was a wonderful take on this difficult topic, Kim. Thanks for your support and for participating! 😄
You are more than welcome, Anmol! 😉
Well, this subject hits very close to my heart, Anmol – on so many levels. My entry is raw, from the heart. So much to cover on this topic, but it’s a start.
Thank you for sharing such a powerful poem, VJ! 🙂
My pleasure.
Well….I have 4 poems started, edited, scratched ou, etc in my journal for this prompt. Too raw, turned out with wrong tone, sounded like I was full of it etc and have finally chosen a haiku to address this.
I am so blessed with family, love, two parents; and as the song says I was “Born in the USA” – with freedom of speech, the ability to vote, roads, electricity. Blessings. Although I do realize there are those born in the USA, into poverty, a neighborhood without clean water and good schools, etc.
I’ll also add something I’ve said to people in the past …”All the money in the world, a privileged life, did not keep Rose Kennedy from being hit with so many tragedies.”
This is a complex issue.
It is a complex issue. I am glad that we all partook in this conversation and employed our literary capabilities to share our perspectives and opinions with each other. Thank you, Lillian, for your incisive words.
Anmol, thank you for this thoughtful and thought provoking post. The poems were really intriguing. This is a challenge that I cannot take on lightly. I will ponder it. I think that poetry can be a powerful and maybe more effective way to explore and learn from each other. I look forward to reading what others share.
Hey, Ali! Poetry is indeed a powerful tool to explore such ideas and themes for an exchange of opinions and perspectives. Literature provides us the avenue to express ourselves freely, as we should do. I am glad that you found the poems intriguing. I look forward to reading your take on this theme. 🙂
I really like the music by Nina Simone! Thanks for hosting. I admit sometimes i feel a bit defensive at the “privileged” label.
Hello, everyone! I got a little late but now, I’m reading and enjoying all your thoughtful and thought-provoking poems stemming from different experiences and perspectives. It could be a contentious topic for discussion as understandable. In my reading, I think it’s been misconstrued that the privilege discussion is only about race perhaps because of the Michael Kimmel quote. I just wanted to clarify that it’s not so. Like I’ve mentioned in the post as well, there are multiple dimensions to it with such social factors as race, gender, sexuality, class, caste, religion, (dis)ability, age, nationality, etc., and not to forget their intersectionality. An intersectional approach speaks of the overlap of various social identities which contributes to the specific types of oppression and systemic discrimination experienced by an individual.
Also, I would like to enforce that talking about privileges doesn’t discount anyone’s personal struggles and experiences.
I look forward to reading all of you through the day! 💚
I think some of the controversy around the topic is the finger pointing particularly in liberal western countries… once you decide to talk about privilege in broad sense it does make people alienated to the whole concept. The personal aspect to go through your own privileges is a lot more satisfying.
When I grew up as the privileged son of an professor in a normal middle class community I felt that I had to be ashamed for my father… of course it wasn’t visible in my skin, but everyone knew. So I was bullied and an outcast for most of my youth, but the higher I reached in education it changed from being burdensome to be an asset.
If I had grown up as the son of a miner in a poor neighborhood there would have been other things that made me privileged or non privileged. I have many friends who have gone through such class journeys and going home is never easy…
I think your prompt made me think about how your superficial privilege will change due to so many factors, my neighborhood, the schools or work I’m in, my age…. as poets I think that is what we shall try to understand.
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Evening, Poets! Thanks, Amnol, for a thought-provoking prompt! See you all on the trail soon! 🙂
Thank you for this prompt, Anmol. Privileges weave in, around, amongst us, and I think that one of the most basic building blocks of empathy is understanding how privilege can separate us and bring us together – and that each of us may have a different tapestry of privileges.
I had a bit of a down week, so was mostly gone this past while, but I’m happy to be poking my head back in. I’ve pulled up a poem first written a few months ago while I was thinking about the ways in which my 20s were privileged, and I’ve lightly edited it for today.
I really enjoyed the different perspectives that you shared with us through these two distinctive poems with a spirit and of course a certain understanding of these identities.
I agree with you on the different tapestry of privileges. Thanks for participating, Nora. 🙂
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