Hello, this is Frank Hubeny.
I found M. Scott Peck’s Further Along the Road Less Traveled in a used bookstore a few weeks ago. It has been a challenge to read. As I understand it Peck describes a spiritual journey we are all on, whether we like it or not, from narcissism to at least something better – or less narcissistic.
One of the chapters is titled “Blame and Forgiveness”. The first sentence of that chapter goes like this:
A big part of growing up is learning to forgive.
Now, I don’t think I’m anywhere near grown up. Forgiveness is hard work because blaming someone else is such a rush and we may at times need that rush for self-defense. That some blame is appropriate, even from Peck’s perspective, helps make the move toward forgiveness, the growing up, difficult. It is not just about forgiveness, but then again forgiveness is the goal.
One writer who focuses monthly on forgiveness is Debbie Roth with her Forgiving Fridays. She keeps me focused on the topic even when I don’t understand what forgiveness means. And now I can thank Peck as well.
So, that is the prompt: blame and forgiveness. Either one. Or both. There are no other constraints. It need not be about the poet’s own life.
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Hello Frank, thank for a thoughtful prompt… I tried something I haven’t done before namely to write an aphorism for this… hope it works… (but at least it is short)
Aphorisms sound like they would make a good poetic, or prose-poetic, form. I liked what you did.
It is a very classic form that maybe we should try one time. I can also see them working in combination with prose… like the terse summary in a fable for instance.
Yes, I think we should try this as a form by itself.
A bit like a haibun but with an aphorism instead of a haiku.
I am (still) learning to forgive. Thanks Frank for a meaningful prompt.
So am I.
If Grace tunes in, I do like your poem. The image of threading hours of happiness is lovely. Yesterday’s quadrille was one of the nicest of yours I’ve read too. I can’t leave comments on Blogger any more; Google has locked me out. I must have pressed a wrong button somewhere.
Same goes for Glenn and Beverly. Sorry about that.
Thanks Jane. Appreciate your comments.
I tried to leave a comment yesterday and Google wouldn’t let me, said I had to sign in. I have no idea what my password is, and to get another one, Google wants me to tell them which is the last password I had… Is there something lunatic in that or not?
That seems unusual about them asking your for your password. I would not trust that request. They should just reset the password. I have that two-step authentication set up with my phone to confirm who I am.
I’ve been told by Google to sign in again before, and had to choose a new password, but never on condition that I tell them what my old password is!
I’ve never had any support group request my password. They usually go out of there way not to know it for their own protection.
I have done this a couple of times and if you have an old password it will take you to the two factor recovery… either by sending a code on your mobile or to a second mail account if you have one… (I do forget my password every now and then)
Good evening everyone. Please forgive me if I don’t stay long but I need to start packing for my visit to my daughter and I have a busy day tomorrow. I will be back in the morning to continue reading and commenting.
Have a nice visit with your daughter and enjoy the busy day.
Thank you, Frank!
Thank you for hosting Frank, and for this most serendipitous prompt! 😀
Thank you, Rob! I am glad you find it serendipitous.
Hi Frank and All. It’s deathly cold and grey here today. Tough topic for a person who may never grow up…
I may never grow up either. I don’t think Peter Pan grew up, so I’d be in good company.
you can forgive, but not allow yourself to be hurt by that person again…
There is no reason to allow yourself to be hurt again.
A big part of growing up is learning to forgive. Love this.
You are right forgiving isnt easy. You describe blame as a rush, interesting. I think the pain felt makes it hard to forgive and if we forgive they wont change. I have been thinking so much about this topic lately.
A big part of growing up is learning to forgive.
Nelson Mandela said if i dont forgive as he walked out of prison, that he would be still in prison even he was a free man….
No matter how hard it might be we have to forgive, for our happiness. If we stay in hurt we never move on and the negativity between us will remain.
As hard as it .. it is the wisest the smartest and sensible thing to do.
We can all eventually forgive if we keep at it. Like Debbie’s blog suggest.
Wish you the best of luck.
Good point about Nelson Mandela. I’m trying to figure out what forgiveness is. And how to work through the thorns of blame.
Yes what is forgiveness and thorns of blame. I think it comes back to knowing i was wronged but letting go so i can live, and not drown in those thorns of blame. My two pence worth. It is a hard one for sure.
always forgive, never forget, do no harm, but take no cr** 😉
That’s a good reason not to forget. Make sure to stay on one’s guard.
Always. 😉
Interesting prompt, Frank. I’m looking forward to some reading.
I found it easier to write the prompt than a poem to go with it.
a most thought provoking prompt Frank. I am late but here, please forgive me…LOL!
You’re forgiven. 🙂
It’s your fault I’m not more forgiving
Lol Eric
Sent from my iPad
The circle of blame is a spinning top. 🙂
Thanks for hosting, Frank. Hot topic around here – my computer has been acting up for weeks and I’m not willing to take the blame, although my husband seems to think I’m part of the problem. Anyway, after several attempts, I am in. Need a drink now though.
Sometimes those computers break on their own. I back up files to Google docs and to a thumb drive. Just in case.
Getting better at that ….now, lol.
Glad you made it VJ!
Thanks Jade!
Thanks for the thoughtful prompt Frank. (K)
I ended up considering guilt, which kind of falls between blame and forgiveness.
Guilt seems like a glue between them. I like the melodic sound of your poem.
Thanks Frank. The shorter lines have a different rhythm.
Thank you for the thought provoking prompt Frank.
Every time I think I’ve figured out blame and forgiveness for good, I realize I haven’t.
Yes, I know what you mean.
Frank and All, I just finished reading over 30 incredible takes on the prompts and am blown away by the breadth of them. I appreciate the prompt and the response as they have given me a whole passel of seeds.
The breadth of the variety of the responses was more than I expected as well. I don’t know much about blame and forgiveness. On the rational surface of it it seems simple: just forgive and be done with it. Reality is more complex and worth whatever pain we have to face to learn it fully.
Oh Frank, I just saw this. I am so touched that you chose blame and forgiveness as the topic for dVerse. What a powerful service to the blogging community — opening to the grace of letting go. This is a perfect contribution for #ForgivingFridays, and I will highlight it in my upcoming #ForgivingFridays. Bless you Frank.
~Debbie
ps – I’m not familiar with how the dVerse prompt works. Can you let me know? Thank you!
Hi again Frank! I got so inspired that I dedicated my #ForgivingFridays post to this prompt. Thank you so much. Here it is—including my own poem on compassion:
https://forgivingconnects.com/2019/03/01/todays-forgiving-fridays-the-endless-gift-of-your-own-compassion/