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A few years ago, I lost two friends in one week. It was the strangest thing.
Richard and I talked every day, either through our blogs or through chat. He was a cook. I don’t remember how I started following him or how we started chatting beyond reading each others posts, but we did…and then one day he stopped responding. Shortly thereafter his family posted that he had died of an unforeseen heart attack.
Within a month, Barry, another friend I made online, through blogs, who was in a battle with cancer passed away. We had recently rang the bell for him, leaving the clinic one last time.
The strangest thing was I called each friend—and never met either of them, in real life. I never would have believed I would feel as I do for those friends I make online and how their passing would affect me.
Today, I have the sad privilege to let you know that one of our own poets has passed on.
If you never met Dave King, I wish you could have. He always had a good word and was loyal—reading often even if he did not post something. His poetry—luckily you can still experience it for now at his site. Dave was a good man—a good poet—and a good friend to those that knew him.
I want to honor him today by having us write poetry—poetry about good friends, poetry about friendship. If you knew Dave, feel free to write that loss out, but I want to remember him as a friend—let’s fill this place with verse and celebrate life.
Link below. Read others. Be friends.
Much love. ~Brian
Sadly, just received a call from my brother, who is ill, and I need to rush over to his place, and possibly take him to the hospital. So will not be visiting much out on line for a time.
Hope all is well for him and you, Glenn.
Will say a prayer for you.
So sorry, Glenn. Hope things will go well for him.
oh glenn… i hope he’s feeling better soon… hugs your way..
hey man…i hope all goes well with our brother….do check back as i will be keeping you in my thoughts til then….
*hug* In my thoughts
Thinking of you, Glenn, and your brother.
Glenn, hope that your brother is doing better. It’s been a rough year.
Saying a prayer for your brother, Glenn…
Glenn, please let us know ~ Hope your brother is going to be fine ~
Sorry Glenn. It is always difficult but it is also a part of life. Never easy though.
Hugs to you and your brother Glenn.
I suspect today will be a busy day at the Pub as we raise a toast and pay our tributes to such a good man. I hurt for this loss as much as I have for those near to me. It does amaze me how close we can become through shared poetry without ever having met one another. I think that, perhaps, is a function of the poetry itself which dives right into the core of who we are.
I agree with you, Victoria. I think through poetry we connect on a deep level oftentimes. We move beyond the surface & experience one another’s essence at a far deeper level.
i agree victoria… i think through poetry we get to know each other on a very personal level.. and that surely connects… it hit me so hard when i heard about dave…
i think in many ways it is…we bare our souls to each other….and get to know each other through words and feelings….
And perhaps this is easier to do because of the relative anonymity of not having met.
No, Victoria, even when poets share their work in person, as in various workshops I’ve led over the years, it is always a recipe for intimacy!
I only just found out! And I had a lot of poetic interaction with Dave. Honestly, he was one of the best amateur poets I know. Some of his poems weren’t just really good, they were seriously f**king momentous. Easily publishable, anywhere. Sad loss. He gave great critique, too. Always had time for others. Gently on your way, brother, with love
Goodness, Brian–I read your poem this morning but the name just did not connect till I saw Dave’s face–many times I’ve enjoyed his exceptional work, and his kind comments. He will indeed be missed.
he was a gentleman… wasn’t he…
he was a great poet and def always a gentleman…smiles….
Truly, and a talented poet, very warm, always intelligent…it makes you think about how short and undetermined our time here really is.
I was so sad when I received the news. Dave King is missed, and I agree with Victoria it will be a busy night. I’m still at work…. had to work late tonight.
ah – hope it’s not getting too late at work… just coming back from my watercolor course… fun group… the average age is 65 i would say… all females except of the trainer.. and they were all so sweet…smiles
We have a big telephone conference… still 15 minutes to go.
just got out of school myself….so just getting out…
watercolor class sounds fun c….
A wonderful idea. With all warmest wishes to everyone that knew him. Thank you, Brian, for this week’s inspiration.
smiles…no sweat…i figure even if you did not know dave….friends is a great way to remember him…
Victoria is right: because we share our innermost soul and thoughts in our poetry, we often feel more connection to others whose poetry we read and admire, than the people we meet and have superficial chats with every day. So sorry to hear about Dave – his poetry is a delight to read and his generosity of spirit a model for all of us.
Yes, indeed… I third Claudia’s sentiment.
…oops, Victoria’s sentiment…
haha… was already wondering..smiles
Think it’s all of our sentiment coming to life as we jointly experience loss.
I never take death well… I will really miss Dave.
hugs.
i will as well.
What a sad loss…
it is indeed…
I am grieved and saddened at our loss. Here’s to Dave who lived among us, who gave us insight and the softest and most insightful praise. His goodness, his brilliance and most of all his presence among us will be missed and where he goes beyond the veil, he will bring gladness.
smiles…so true of him….he was a gentle soul…
and thanks for deferring your prompt so we could do this as well…beat poetry—next week!
Wouldn’t have it any other way.
Sorry my link led somewhere else. Claudia graciously fixed it for me. My tribute is here: http://hollyheir.wordpress.com/2013/10/10/in-memory-of-a-poet/
Very sad to hear about Dave King. I love the idea of writing a poem about good friends, thanks for the inspiration.
nice…look forward to reading about your good friends….
I am so sad to hear this. May he rest in peace. He will be missed.
yes he will….
Dave was a kind man, a good man. He left his mark in the poetry blogosphere, as I am sure he did in life. He definitely will be missed, but his poetry WILL live on. Thank goodness for his writing legacy, especially for his family.
smiles. i would have loved to know him in real life….because of the way he always treated those he read….and i imagine his words will be treasured by his family….
I was saddened to hear this as well…raising a toast with you all.
smiles…thank you
I am so sorry to read this news. Rest in peace, kind poet, and peace to those of you who knew him better than I.
thank marian
Marian…he was the one who encouraged me most …and was also most gently honest in his critique which few others seem to find easy.
Dave was an exceptionally inventive and very gifted poet. His knowledge of visual art ran deep too. He often had kind words for my work. He’ll be missed.
hey good to see you mark….yes, he did….and was….
May God grant acceptance and patience to his family. Thank you Brian for letting us know. Dave touched me with his simple beautiful comments. He was good and kind and it shines through his picture, and his words. I am saddened.
yes he was…its good to see you as well lisa…
Brian, Sad news. I will keep his family in my thoughts.
We had a discussion on this a couple weeks ago when a very close online friend of mine passed away. Logic argues with my heart. How can love reach so far without a physical presence? It does and along with love comes the potential for loss and grief. My online friends are incredibly real, intensely loved and greatly cherished. It will always be a sad day when a friend leaves this plane.
I have yet to begin writing since I lost my friend. Perhaps this is the right time.
Blessings to all.
i hope you find your words beth…
i know this has been hard on you of late…
hugs
Thank you Brian For encouraging us to appreciate friends and friendships! Your post is a lovely tribute.
thanks gabriella…we make wonderful connections here every week…i would like to think we could all be friends if we ever met in real life…smiles.
Brian, is there a way to let Dave’s family know of this tribute? I wonder if they check his blog or if anyone out there knows how to contact them.
i left a comment there to let them know we would be doing this….
maybe they will get the message…
Thanks for informing us of a poet friend’s passing. I agree with Victoria, Brian and others that mentioned how poetry gives us a close bond because we bare our souls through it. Rest in peace to all our friends that have left us. We shall meet again when it’s our time.
that is true…we will all meet again…one day….smiles.
Sad news indeed. I was just getting to know Dave and his exceptional poetry when he was taken ill. A truly lovely man as well as a lovely poet.
even a light touch i imagine made an impression…
thanks rosemary…
Brian, thank you for the opportunity to share some love and poetry for Dave. I always enjoyed his poetry and comments–he was a kind and generous person.
yes he was…smiles.
I’m linking to a piece from 2011, as it’s about internet friendships.
def apropo…smiles.
this is sorry news Brian…just one of the best…most honest…say it as it is of the poets on any of the poetry sites as far as I’m concerned. I just read his last one last evening…and it was in a way prophetic….ready for death…or is death ready for you…he said no but none of us know what is next ..I certainly didn’t this time last year and hence so few posts put up. Thankyou for the info. Geraldine
it was…i even titled my post today ‘ you tried to prepare us, but—‘ because i think he knew but wanted to make it easy on us….
I just read some of Dave’s poetry, what a wonderful writer and what a loss. I lost a very dear friend 19 years ago and there is still a vacancy no one can fill. I posted a poem I wrote last year about her. Look forward to reading the work of others regarding friendship.
def a vacancy no one can fill….hugs on the loss of your own friend….def a touching post you left us….
Thanks Brian.
I haven’t had time to write a poem yet, and just in case I’m not able to put something together I wanted to add my voice to the words of honor being posted here. Dave’s words were always kind, careful (as in full of care), and welcoming, and I’m happy to be able to remember him in this way.
def full of care….and thanks for adding your voice…hope you get that time nico…either way, great to see you…smiles…
http://lornacahall.blogspot.com/2013/10/you-are-music.html
You Are Music
words can’t shape
a container
only the slow
the lonely blues
sustain a rhythm of time
able to hold
sweet memory and loss
bottomless melodies
telling of the irreplaceable
yet vanished
as I will be
just like you
nothing much
and everything
nice lorna….nothing much and everything….
So it took me some time to compose a poem since I was really sadden by his passing. I look back over his comments to me for the past 2 years and counted and read them again. Such a kind and encouraging man ~ Thank you for the lovely post and giving us the space & time to grieve and pay tribute to one of our own blogger friends ~
Happy Thursday to all ~
yeah i wrote a couple actually….went with the delicate touch one even then it was hard to get the words right as it pinged me pretty hard….
Came across Victoria’s FB posting and am sadden to hear of Dave’s passing. I remember that he wrote gentle and beautiful poems, and he had visited my blog as well and left kind comments often. I will remember him well.
smiles…i am glad you saw it…and its good to see you as well…
i hope all is good with you…
😦
…’til we meet again (somewhere)… Dave, Sir…
most def kelvin….
Hello. I know a remembrance is in progress for David who bravely worked on healing until he couldn’t and who left us so much. He and I visited each others blogs a bit, but didn’t develop a relationship–unlike so many of you. He honored my work, I his. I’m not sure if and how I open to friendships here–I have a hermit sense about me. But in this time of mourning I want so much to move closer. Thank you, Brian, David, et al.
smiles…you are good peeps susan…and i think i know your heart a bit for our travelling together…
I know you do, Brian, and I know yours a little too. But you have a talent for getting close, you know, your questions and comments ask for more than brushing against people on the way out the door. Sometimes I wish I could just check a box to say “I was here,” but because of you I linger a little longer. Reading like that enriches my life.
Brian has that knack, doesn’t he ~ I have learned a lot from reading others too ~
Hi Brian, I’ve been in meetings all day and couldn’t write but Dave was such a good guy– a wonderfully fun and philosophical writer and a generous commenter. I feel very sad and hope his family realizes how much he will be missed. K
thats ok…the words will come when they will…and maybe tomorrow you know…smiles.
Dear God I feel so guilty, not clicking onto Pics and Poems until I read Björn’s post on email. So sorry Dave.
Anna
ah all is well….and dave is probably still writing poetry where ever he is…smiles.
Thank you for easing my conscience Brian – but I still feel so guilty. How wrapped up in our own lives we (I) become…
Love you loads.
Anna
we do at times…and it happens to all of us…and we poke in and out of this stream on the net…leaving small ripples…its hard to tell who is coming or going at times…
far too many have disappeared that i never knew what happened….
How true this is Brian and in comparison to others (you!) my life on the net is so small.
But i have made lasting friendships (>4yrs) on this wonderful blogging world and I must reach out more – I have done and been disappointed – but perhaps have been disillusioned by negative responses …
I wish I had reached out to Dave sooner.
Anna
Brian – this is really cool. He was a gentleman and always had kind and encouraging words when commenting on my blog. His family is blessed to have his poetry – what a treasure.
i agree…i hope they read his words and relive a bit of his life in his passing…
Brian this is such a lovely and thoughtful way to pay tribute to a fellow poet. I would like to pass on my deepest sympathies to his family and all friends here.
most def di…
i let them know we were doing this
so maybe they will be dropping through
hope you are well…
I only encountered him briefly but was struck by his elegance and wit. A toast to Dave ~ Michael
a toast indeed…
and well penned fib this eve too…
light em up
So sorry to hear of one of our fellow poets has passed. Thank you for allowing words to bring the gifts of grace and honor to this place through our writing. I will see if I have an offering. I just attended a wake Tuesday night, of a man I have known most of my life through family. His sweet wife held me tight as I sought to comfort her and said, “He’s watching from above.”. Oh the mystery of life, death and beyond…sadness, joy, grief, and love all balled together….beyond me. I found out through Gerry’s words. Prayers for the family…
thank you dawn…and sorry fo your own loss as well…tis the season it seems…or maybe this is when we remember them most that makes it feel like that at times….
David will be missed. I knew him from his poetry, his commentary, his banter, and I’mm proud to have known him and counted him as one of my friends. A poet and a gentleman.
ah, me as well…smiles….
I’ve met people online I feel closer to than some of my close friends in real life. I’ve had the good fortune to speak to some by phone (even from Australia) and to meet in real life (synchronicity of life paths crossing). I’ve led a sheltered life in terms of death except for pets. I’m 60 and have only been to the funeral of one family member before I was disowned in 1997. I don’t know what feeling the human loss is like but know how much I would miss the friends I’ve made online or otherwise. My past makes me a challenging friend so all those dear to me are beyond loyal. I’m sorry for your losses and the loss of a poet from this group. I did not know him. I’m sure his presence will be missed greatly in this close community.
smiles…what a life not to have known death…then again you have known other things i would not wish…we have made some good friends…and there are some i speak to on the phone…its always fun to hear their voice after reading them…and about 13 i have met now….
I’m so sad to hear this. I knew Dave only from blogs posts and comments. Just last week I realized I hadn’t ‘seen’ him in awhile and had this bad feeling. I visited his bolg and saw that he had posted…I don’t remember when now, but remember thinking it wasn’t too long ago. So I left thinking I was probably just being morbid. This is a wonderful way to honor him, and I’m not sure if I can come up with a poem, but good on you Brian. Cheers to you and to Dave.
if you do, great, if not, you have honored him in your remembering him….smiles…
My sympathies on this news, Brian.
My poem’s from an earlier dVerse prompt, to write poetry based on a book passage — I had written on the part of Jane Eyre in which she talks about the school epidemic that claimed her dear friend Helen. One of the saddest passages in one of my favourite books…
surely apropo…be over in a few…
So sorry to hear about Dave’s passing. I have known him since my first days of blogging, though we did drift away from each other over the years. He was a kind and gentle man. A sad day indeed. Condolences to his family and friends.
Pamela
most def…and thank you pamela….
Tragic news to wake up to. I read a few of Dave’s pieces, but did not get to know him that well. RIP Dave and my sincere condolences extended to his family and friends. We all become one on here, for whatever reason. Our comments to each other, our poetry, our simple *smiles*. The loss of anyone, even if we have never met, stabs a little at our hearts. So sad, thank you for writing this and letting us know Brian. Dave I do hope your brother is okay. May the pain that we experience through the loss of Dave ease as the days pass, remembering his words and his kindness. x
Strangely I wrote a poem of death last night – but I don’t know if it will be suitable. I shall write one on friendships. x
smiles…this is who we are…we are poets…not just of words but life….for what are words if they have no life, and how can we give it if we first have not experienced it….and amen on your last line…
thank you Brian, I shall post my tribute shortly. Such a sad day.
cool…i will be looking for it…and if not tonight i will see it in the morning…
Hopefully it will be fitting – thank you Brian.
I, too, have been amazed by the friendships I’ve made in the blog community. This post reminded me of a poem I wrote some time ago – a double acrostic of the word “friendship,” so I thought I would share that today. Peace, Linda
i enjoyed a second look at it…smiles.
what a wonderful response this evening….thank you all…
off to bed…i will be back in the morning to catch up…
shalom
I just rediscovered, and re-read, the first poem of Dave’s that I had ever seen. Such a remarkable spirit…so…whole. I had not known him long (2011) or well, but he was a deep presence and I was grateful for his visits.
don’t know if I’ll be able to post anything, but I will read. He would want us to read.
smiles…thanks for sharing your own dave story ds…he would…and he was….
And I did post something. I hope it does him justice. Thank you Brian.
oh wow… waking to 50 links and 124 comments… this really moves me… will read through all of them during the day… thanks to all of you out there..
I am so sad to hear of Dave’s passing. He touched many lives and will be missed~
he did….good to see you ella….
A beautiful tribute, Brian. It is a very sad loss. Because we share our deepest thoughts online, I think we get to know each other at a level a lot of our real-time connections dont always reach. Dave was a fine gentleman, a good heart, a wonderful poet. He will be missed. He faced his situation with such courage. I, too, am glad he left the legacy of his writing for his family. I will try to write something tomorrow. It has been a long sad day. Blessings, all.
blessing sherry… and sleep well..
he did…and i think too he was open and honest with us about it….maybe tried to soften the blow a bit but he was real and shared it….
Yes, I have a couple of FB friends whom I feel I have known forever but have never met and probably never will. Although I do believe that we connect beyond the material; that people come into our lives with whom we have a Soul connection and that a physical meeting is not required for true connection. The internet is a reminder that we are drawn and held together by far more than the materialistic world we know.
ha. yes, that last statement in true…because we have no idea what people really look like….
RIP Dave… I have been unfortunate in not having interacted with him. But every word said here is true Brian. There are many who become part of our lives without meeting them or even knowing them. I hope to write something…not sure…festivities in this part of the world, ironical to this post and news but guess life has to move on. Sorry
life does…and we need not apologize for that….enjoy your festival, i hope the words find you…both are ways we celebrate life…
Oh, what a loss. Dave King’s picture seems more familiar to me than pictures in yearbooks full of people I knew for years, more familiar than pictures of many of my family members…..proof of his gentle capacity to be there with just the right words – both those he wrote in his poems and those he left as comments in our blogs.
Your tribute was just beautiful, Brian. I will try to honor Dave by being a more consistent friend to people here who I really do think the world of.
Peace to Dave’s family at this time of grief.
heh i dont see many of those yearbook pictures much anymore either…..smiles…i know what you are saying…dave was a great guy….
Brian, this was such a good thing to do. As usual you come up with the right idea at the right time. Writing together like this so helps in coming to terms with the loss of a friend, realizing you have others to help you through it.
most def….we were not created to walk this life alone…i firmly believe that…i will say it was selfish as anything cause i needed the chance to process it as well….
Hey divya (#56)
cant open your page from school so it will be late in the day when i get by.
good morning poets….will be in and out when i get a chance at school today…hope your friday goes well…
It saddens me to learn that one of our own in this lovely community has passed. He seemed a kind, gentle man and it showed through his words and work. There’s a Polish term my dad’s family always used when we ended our visits and left for home–it was never “good-bye” but always “…until we meet again.” For Dave: “dopóki się znowu nie spotkamy”
(To his family and all of you in this community who knew him so much better than I, a humble reader, I extend my deepest condolences.)
def…i am a firm believer in ‘see you soon (enough)’….smiles….thanks ginny
Brian, – was so saddened to hear this. I always enjoyed reading Dave’s poetry.. and his voice will be missed..Like you say, his last couple of poems did try to prepare us.. but I guess we can never be prepared.. I will definitely put my post up shortly..
And thank you …
So many of this week’s poems, though moved by sorrow, are reminding me of all kinds of pleasures of friendships.
so true….even our sorrow speaks to the the depth of the friendships….
I am sorry to hear about his passing. May he have eternal rest.
amen
Brian, was saddened to read this last night.. today had been busy but Dave and this incredible community of friends we make out here have been in my mind throughout.
His voice will be missed….
So sorry to hear of the loss of Poet King. I missed the widget by 12 minutes – I am sure he is enjoying poetry where he is. And we won’t forget him.
I knew of Dave – definitely recognized the name and photo. Amazing – the connections we make through poetry. much to celebrate as well as grieve. nicely done, Brian.
I, too, felt Dave’s compassion and true abiding friendship even though I did not know him well….always a bright spot to receive a comment from him and to read his as well…I read this before but neglected to comment I think…