Hello all, I just came back from a week of vacation and at today’s pubtalk I would like to talk about how to rest.
When vacations was originally introduced it was often seen as a way of resting tired muscles, to lap some sunshine and doing nothing. Today for many rest and vacation is about resting your brain. This of course includes the process of writing… to rejuvenate ourselves we need other ways of gathering inspiration and to sieve the words that lay dormant, and maybe also learning to get a good night sleep again.
For me the best way to rest is to work my muscles. During my vacation I need to keep moving, to exercise and to focus about the simple ways of getting from place A to place B. In the evening I only crave a simple meal before a long night sleep.
Rest at Night
The Sun from shining,
Nature—and some Men—
Rest at Noon—some Men—
While Nature
And the Sun—go on—Emily Dickinson
Especially in winter I find the silence of nature very restful, but in summer it’s the white sound of mountain stream. The sound of skies cutting the crust of the snow, and the way my heart beats faster when I push myself uphill; the ache of muscles after a long day outdoors. To me all this is restful.
If I go to bed with the sun, I can also wake with the sun. I write nothing, I read only very little, and in the evening we tell stories to other wanderers. To me it’s restful to forget the world outside and live in the moment.
Now I have returned… and there I feel a slight resistance to writing, and I know this is the mood I need to be an even better poet.
Please tell me, how do you find rest? Are there other tricks, that you can find without a total break from writing? Do we need rest at all? Tell me how it is for you? Do you need a special place?
I once found reading to be restful, but since I started writing it seems very close to work.
Or if you want to share a poem about rest that talks to you.
Hello all… I am all rested, but I also need an early bedtime… I have gotten used to go to rest at 9 PM … 🙂 But please let me pour you a potion of rest.
Welcome back! I can mos def do a poem about resting. Perfect prompt for after a vacation. When I used to work, it would take me two weeks to arrange my work to go and when I returned, three weeks to catch up. LOL. I must mention I love being retired. Love it.
Ha… for me resting is what many would think is work… the subject of resting is something I might do as a true prompt…
Hi Bjorn and All. Bjorn, you were missed! Time works differently in cyberia and it seems you were gone longer than a week. It sounds like you were able to get some peace of mind. To relax, for me, is to get out on the bike trail and ride. A flat surface is more work and less fun. One with inclines and declines, surrounded by nature is best. Along lakes and rivers with the breeze. On a trail with no motorized vehicles. I carry liquids wrapped in something so the containers don’t rattle. The phone, a few dollar bills, sunglasses, and pepper spray just in case. On a day not too hot nor too cold.
Oh this sounds like my way of resting… to focus on moving is perfect… I was actually away ten days so it was a bit more than a week.
I’ve read, and believe, that being in motion, doing something that absorbs your attention, is moving meditation. I also LOVE working in my yard. Landscaping is one of my most relaxing moving meditations, then to look at what has been created is also joyful. Aha so it was longer than a week.
I don’t rest; I write. I can’t imagine not writing, can’t turn it on and off.
Maybe writing is your way of resting… sometimes it’s for me as well.
No, it isn’t resting or restful. I don’t sleep at night. But writing is what I do.
Me too, Jane!
🙂
Writing and reading are the same for me as well Jane.
I read to get into a different story, to unwind from the one I’ve been writing, but it rarely works.
LOL. I know the feeling. Though lately, I have found myself becoming more rested as I write.
I have too many different things on the boil. I take time out from novel writing to write poetry, and then there’s another novel to revise. Too many ingredients 🙂
LOL, it just hit me this is a pubtalk segment…but I can rest. I don’t let my husband cut a large segment of my back yard to encourage clover blooms and wildflowers. I started keeping bees (a single hive) last year. I love to sit on the back steps and watch the busy creatures going back and forth from clover to hive. this year my back yard exploded into violets. The bees are delirious! I also like taking walks in the woods on our property, climbing a huge oak and sitting watching the wood creatures, or reading, or playing my violin. And there are always books. I think we need to get away from the busy-ness of our live and rest. Just do nothing.
I used to be able to do that… but these days I need the strain of physical work to get tired in other ways than by thinking…
A change of venue is always important – doing something different. I worked so much mentally that I needed to rest my mind…by using it! I can understand though. I have a friend who is always busybusybusy. She never stops moving. Makes me crazy. I learned to stop and rest my mind years ago…not really restful so much as being a peace.
Kanzen, I love learning that you have started keeping bees. They are such industrious little critters. The fields here are full of their humming when the flowers come. There are so many raspberry and blackberry canes that spring up by the hundreds along the edges of the fields, the bees are in a living heaven. Violets and dandelions in spring — if spring ever would get here…
“After all, the best part of a holiday is perhaps not so much to be resting yourself, as to see all the other fellows busy working.”
― Kenneth Grahame (Wind in the Willows), The Wind in the Willows
I have always loved bees although I am allergic to their sting. I keep plenty of flowers in bloom to try to keep them from going elsewhere, where perhaps the flowers have been sprayed with poison. They are busy and I think, happy ones. I love the soothing sound of their buzzing. We have tons of blackberry canes around but no raspberries. Spring here is in full swing.
Bees! I love that you are keeping a hive, and it’s a lovely image to be able to sit surrounded by their buzz, watching them and the flowers.
I wrote this little poem when my husband tried keeping a beehive
Let clover grow
Feed bees
Don’t mow
He mowed all the dandelion blooms yesterday.
LOL. I hired someone to do our lawn this spring. I gave him a tour and told him, these areas do not get mowed. He said, yes ma’am. Mowed the lawn and left the wild areas. I was happy.
Welcome back’, and thanks for hosting. Because of my particular circumstances, I look at resting from a different perspective. I think once you have retired, and the stresses from work evaporate, your whole world morphs into a different gear. I find writing (and my photography) to be essential, because at 75 one needs intense interests and mental challenges to ward off fatigue and malaise, to keep mentally sharp. I look forward to my 3 days a week dVerse prompts, and the fellowship that goes hand in hand with it. Unfortunately, my physical disability prevents me from much outside activity. My rest all comes at night; but I have overcome the get up early work ethic, and stay up to late hours with hobbies and projects.
I think I beginning to feel the angst of not working anymore (less than ten years away)… to write and to read is relaxing in it’s own way, but it’s nothing like being tired from a long day of labor…
Glenn, I can relate to the essential need to keep my mind sharp through the writing, research, and through other artwork (coloring, collage). Speaking of photography, while looking for tax documents last week, I unearthed my real (digital) camera. Ever since I got the cell phone a few years ago, it’s been taking the pictures (thanks facebook!) but the real camera does such a better job. The only thing I don’t like about the camera is that the batteries never last long!
I mainly use sleep in the evening for rest. I know that seems like an obvious answer, but things make sense in the morning that didn’t the day before. I welcome whatever insight appears in the morning.
I also use other techniques to rest better: (!) I eat fewer meals so my body can rest from digesting food. (2) I use grounding (earthing) connectors on my wrist and under my bare feet. (3) I stand when I am at the computer and try to keep a good posture. (4) I use coconut oil in coffee for a keto boost.
And I try to trust more, smile and stay positive. That keeps the thoughts rested.
What a great set of advice… to sleep well is the best way to rest, but I find that without some physical work I will not be able to sleep well…
I do a lot of walking and that may be my substitute for physical activity. But I can see how a lot of physical activity can help one fall asleep and sleep well and so get rested.
Lovely thoughts Frank & I want to do #1. In my office, my desk can be moved up and down – so I can stand up if I like instead of being cramped sitting down all day. I must check out on those earthing connectors.
Although it took a few days to get used to, I no longer use the chair at the computer. It helps my posture and breathing. I think the earthing/grounding makes me feel calmer. I stand on a grounding mat barefoot when at the computer and wear a wrist band grounding connector when sleeping. It is like resting when working.
Frank, I wonder if you can absorb the coconut oil through your skin? It makes the perfect moisturizer for skin.
I use coconut oil on my skin as well. I can feel the immediate effects on alertness when I drink it with coffee.
Welcome back, Björn! I look forward to hearing more about your well-deserved break. I’ve never been one for lying around in the sun but prefer to enjoy nature or, if I’m in a city, feed my mind with art galleries, museums, architecture and culture in general. My favourite restful things to do are reading, writing and listening to music, preferably with a cat on my lap.
I agree with you about the silence of nature in winter and the sound of water. I was the opposite when I returned from visiting my daughter – I couldn’t wait to get back to writing.
The only poem I can share on this topic is ‘Come, Rest Awhile’ by Lucy Maud Montgomery:
Come, rest awhile, and let us idly stray
In glimmering valleys, cool and far away.
Come from the greedy mart, the troubled street,
And listen to the music, faint and sweet,
That echoes ever to a listening ear,
Unheard by those who will not pause to hear
The wayward chimes of memory’s pensive bells,
Wind-blown o’er misty hills and curtained dells.
One step aside and dewy buds unclose
The sweetness of the violet and the rose;
Song and romance still linger in the green,
Emblossomed ways by you so seldom seen,
And near at hand, would you but see them, lie
All lovely things beloved in days gone by.
You have forgotten what it is to smile
In your too busy life come, rest awhile.
Nature is so essential to find rest for me too… and the poem I think expresses that so well.. to sleep well is easier after some music too…. (and reading is good)
Perfect! I don’t do keto stuff. I ground myself by walking barefoot on the grass and in the soil in my garden. I don’t do coffee anymore and haven’t for several years. My best rest is connecting with nature in her purest forms . LOL. Rest is so different for different people. I do wear shoes in the woods though!
I used to only ever go barefoot when I was younger. Gardens are perfect for rest and inspiration.
Yes ma’am they are!
kim, that’s a wonderful poem for relaxation!
I agree that rest and relaxation poems would be a great prompt.
Welcome back Bjorn. How nice to take a break every now and then. I do recognize that resistance, but for me its temporary. Once I get into reading poems, I get back into the groove.
For rest, I like going out for hikes and walks. But I can’t take out my writing poetry mode as I am always in a lookout for inspiration.
Now I can’t write and post meaningfully everyday, like what some are doing this month. Its very tiring to set that daily deadline or affects the quality of one’s work. I do look at writing and reading poetry as a hobby for my work – like during my own leisure time.
I wish it was so for me… but once I get into writing there is this push to always write …. When I hike, I forget all about poetry and just keep moving… my inspiration catch up with me afterwards.
celebrating Bjorns triumphant return! i’d have to agree, my work is all mind and zero body, and my body is starting to rebel. so a good hike is very restufl to me. also i’ve been practicing and studying meditation. so that seems like work too… *sigh*
Ha… work always comes up every once in a while… I once tried meditation… I have tried yoga… but to me the only thing that really works is to be tired in my muscles.
Okay. Napowrimo.net today is to write a monologue, so I took rest and wrote a short one. It makes sense to me,
No Rest but for the Soul
I sow my thoughts
Upon this barren soil
Where unrest kicks its dust
Writhing inside
Waiting for solitude
A harness that tames the wild
Ease is not found in ceaseless toil
Let go the burdens
That spoil
Inward cries of the restless
No ears may hear
No respite can quiet
A soul that knows
No repose
I like the sound of the line about ease and ceaseless toil.
The older I get the more restful home is to me. It is fun to travel or visit family, but there is no bed like my own for a good night of rest. Writing for me is a great stress reliever. If I have had a stressful day, sitting down in my chair and writing my daily post on Word Press is very relaxing. All of the above is affected by the fact that I am now retired and the work-a-day stresses are now gone.
I think I can understand that … sometimes during a longer vacation I get into that mood, but still I do need my longer walks or similar
Thanks for hosting Bjorn. Before my health failed, hiking and fushing the Pacific Northwest wilderness was my zen relaxation. Since I have lost that, I am now driven to write, almost constantly, and not just poetry. I write short prose, texts to friends and family back east and in California. I write down ideas I get about anything, subjects for poems, topics for prose, lists about anything, design ideas for my mixed media art, also often for my furniture designs, which I create in 3D perspective drawings. All of this I mentioned occurs pseudo-compulsively. When I need to relax, I put on very open, lose-structure, electronic atmospheric music. Then I sit down with all my collected materials (couture fabric remnants, leather and suede scraps); imported Chiyogami Yuzen Japanese handmade, hand-dyed fiber stock; and my trove of small metalic, wooden, and glass “found objects” – and in a trance-like zen state, I begin to create one of my improvisational series Serenity Totems. It’s like jazz with my hands. I can get lost in this for hours, and I find it increfibly relaxing – and I end up with a wonderful piece of art?
What a wonderful way of relaxing Rob… and so great you found something to replace the longer walks….
Stimulating discussion you’ve got here, not done pub talk before … rest for me is mostly meditation but I’ve been doing it for many years … my last holiday I really can’t even remember but would be more than two decades ago! When I go overseas to teach meditation it is ten hour days often 6/7 but no devices and basic meals provided so I do find that relaxing.
I obviously use devices but I’m not a fan so require plenty of time off air … walk, read but mainly meditate. And sleep very well and wake up excited about the new day, what more to say.
I can see how simple meals, no devices and meditation can be relaxing. One minimizes disturbances all around.
yes and it’s a known daily routine, no variations so the discipline is also soothing Frank 🙂
Interesting how the routines are relaxing… maybe we sometimes need to relax from all the choices we have to make.
simplifying totally frees the mind … maybe turn your devices off an hour or two before you try to sleep, heard this helps!
Jigsaw puzzles are very relaxing to me. They help me figure out my life. I love puzzles of every kind, except numbers. Words, shapes, design, riddles.
It was a long time since I tried jigsaw puzzles… but i do remember that it can be relaxing… (or maybe it was that we only did puzzles when we had nothing else to do…)
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Welcome back. I was wondering where you might be.
I love sleep, and quiet, and solitude. I’m often overwhelmed by the casual noises of everyday urban life and work, and conversations – even with my loved ones – so long stretches of alone time are key for my mental health.
If I’ve enough sleep in my stores, I love bicycling and hiking in the Pacific Northwest – I can spend hours wandering through old cedars, ferns, and moss, and feel euphoria. I’ve recently purchased an e-bike, and I notice now that I’m much happier when I get an hour or more of cycling in each day, so it’s become my main commute option. I used to read voraciously, but it seems harder and less fulfilling now.
I bicycle to work every day and I can clearly feel how much better I feel after the commute (we have showers and changing room at the office so I don’t need an e-bike)
I’m not graced with showers, but I also routinely get sweaty at work – I’ve a beast of a cargo bike for hauling food and other cheffy supplies. I love my e-assist on the hills of Seattle and for much easier starts at intersections.
Ah, Bjorn–such and important subject. I have been on a prolonged rest–from writing–while way too busy about other things. My body is aging and my energy reserve has dwindled. I would never have been found taking a nap, and, when I do, I still feel a bit guilty about it. I was raised and nurtured in the school of “idleness is the devil’s workshop.” I am waiting to jump back into writing and am beginning to get peeks of new ideas. This speaks of life’s seasons, I suppose, and right now it seems best to accept what is. Maybe when this never-ending home remodelling is ended, hopefully this month, I can rest in poetry again. It is good to have you back on board, and may your rest have proved fruitful.
I grew up not to be idle either… and maybe that’s why the physical work is necessary for me to get rested… *smile* … I look forward to have you back in the writing again…
Welcome back, Bjorn! Rest comes in all forms for me and is dependent on my needs. Writing is a form of rest for me because I can let loose with creativity and return to who I am. I find rest when I release built up tension and reconnect with my inner desires.
Writing can be restful… maybe we are better rested simply by the variations of life.
Welcome back, Bjorn! this is why I haven’t seen your scribbles around. From your words I can feel that the rest has been great.
As for me, this topic is so timely. I’m living out of my country for the first time, job is new and proving to be demanding, rest is writing. it is on the lap of words that i find respite.
Looking forward to your poems again! 🙂
Oh … how exciting for you to find yourself in a new place… of course a lot of stress, but that’s when you start to really appreciate the moments of rest you can get.
yes. i cannot agree more to that, Bjorn!
i seek
refreshing change
new possibilities
reveal themselves, opening doors to
future
Reena Saxena (c)2019
IN MOTION (Karin Boye)
The sated day is never first.
The best day is a day of thirst.
Yes, there is goal and meaning in our path –
but it’s the way that is the labour’s worth.
The best goal is a night-long rest,
fire lit, and bread broken in haste.
In places where one sleeps but once,
sleep is secure, dreams full of songs.
Strike camp, strike camp! The new day shows its light.
Our great adventure has no end in sight.
I agree. One remembers the journey more than the goalpost.
I need physical movement to take a break from the mental work of reading and writing. It helps to balance the body and mind. Getting outdoors, or to the gym really does it for me. And just a little socialisng with friends too. And what is rest without sleep? 🙂
For my vacation I need movement… for my every day I commute by bicycle… movement is what gives me the best rest.
Here’s my favorite way to rest: https://judydykstrabrown.com/2019/04/16/in-retirement-for-dverse-poets-pub-talk/
No more Mr. Linky? Or did I just overlook it?
This is a pub talk; no Mr. Linky. Just discussion and sharing of comments.
Aha..was I wrong in sending the link, then? I remember sending poems to dVerse Poet’s Pub.. is that different? I’m sorta out of it. Too many prompts, too little time. Thanks so much for responding, Grace.
Welcome back Bjorn, you were missed. Rest can mean different things at different moments. I sometimes need a short rest from the daily work grind. That might mean a walk outside or it might mean meditation and drumming.
Other times I need a restorative break such as a vacation and then I unplug to enjoy the moments of life.
I plan to go on a weekend retreat this month in the mountains. Totally unplug and let nature speak to me. It’s a time of renewal of the spirit. It’s also a time of creative energy.
In regards to poetry my mind is never unplugged as I find poems everywhere.
That sounds wonderful… those short breaks are wonderful… just a walk around the block can do wonders.
That is so true Bjorn. On my lunch break I often take a walk weather permitting. I just need to breathe, work can be hectic.
Are you ready to write after your break? Did you find inspiration?
It goes a bit slow… but yes… I’m ready for the poetics tonight… 🙂
Camping in a beautiful place ever looking a river with the sound of birds and water.
My ideal vacation includes plenty of outdoor activities such as hiking to waterfalls to take photos and to paint (plein air). But in the room I also work jigsaw puzzles, read a novel, or play my guitar, because I seldom take time for such things on a regular basis at home.