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Time has been on my mind a lot lately, mostly in all the usual ways: there’s never enough of it, it passes too quickly, if only we could bottle some up and save it for later.
As a freelance graphic artist, I am always racing the clock, there is always a deadline looming, and Time and I end up having a rocky relationship. This past month has been one of the busiest in my 20 years of being in business, which is a good thing in many ways, but whew!
During this month, I was also helping my parents move a dear friend of our family who is 89-years-old out of the house she had lived in for 59 years. In truth, this friend is more like my adopted grandmother. I’ve known her since I was 16, and have always admired her strength and courage. Her story is long and not really mine to tell, but let me just say that she has survived a life of physical hardship and handicap, along with the loss of a young child.
Now, at this stage in her life, she finds herself far away from her only remaining child, and dependent on my parents and myself and a few friends for help and support. To make matters worse, just one week after we got her all settled in to her new apartment, she ended up in the hospital, and is still there.
Last year, right around this time, I found out that another dear friend of mine, a woman the same age as I am (52), and who had once been my sister-in-law, was terminally ill. As the anniversary of her death approaches, I am once again reminded of the loss and regret I felt at not having had the chance to tell her how much she meant to me before it was too late. (Another long story, but for the purposes of this post, let’s say that’s enough).
So how are the stories of these two friends and my never-ending struggle with time related? They are all tied together by one simple concept: regret. The regret that I have felt during this past year after losing someone I loved so unexpectedly, and the avoidance of regret that I have been working toward as I make time (even when it seems that none exists) to be there for my much-older friend, and the other people in my life whom I love, before it is too late.
So here’s my idea for Poetics: write a poem to someone you love, telling them how much you love them, or how much they mean to you, or all the things you want them to know before it’s too late. Even if you can’t say it to their face. Even if you will never show them the poem. Write it all down anyway.
Because love doesn’t care if you’re too busy.
And neither does time.
Tell them now.
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Hi Everyone, glad to be here tending bar again, what will you have?
I think tonight I’ll have some warm cider with a cinnamon stick… here it’s dark and nippy.. 🙂
Oh that sounds wonderful, I’ve yet to make mulled cider this autumn, now is my chance! 🙂
Soon we will have our version of mulled wine called glögg… come advent, and we will enjoy that.
I had to look that up, it sounds yummy!
Hmm maybe I can share a recipe…
That would be wonderful!
Yes, please
That makes me think of Harry Potter.
Warm apple cider for me ~ Thanks for a lovely prompt Kelly ~
Just warming up a batch for us all… and thank you!
Either warm apple cider or some herbal tea will do this time of the afternoon. Nice to see you here, Kelly!
Thanks, Mary, it’s great to be here, and great to have a little time for poetry again.
It’s still warm here, so I’ll go with ice tea, s’il vous plait. Sorry, I sort of misinterpreted the prompt. Sometimes speed reading messes things up a bit. And my poem reminds me to slow down!
Oh, I love your twist on the prompt, and I think it works very well! Almost a like a letter to oneself.
Been away from the pub a lonnnnngggg time, so I will have one of everything. 😉 Mine is more the antithesis of what you asked for, a warning if you don’t write that one…
One of everything, coming right up!
Hi Mark, how great to have you back.. 🙂 so great to see you
I love what you did with your “warning,” we all need that reminder sometimes.
So good to see you, Mark!
Happy to see you here, Kelly, and your idea brought up memories of a very important person in my younger years.
Thanks, Gayle, so happy to be here. Your poem is lovely, and brought some memories up for me as well.
Ah, so melancholy now after reading everyone’s poems and this prompt. So touching. My eyes are misty here. I need a big whiskey and I don’t drink whiskey.
I will finish my poem now *~*~*~*
Aw, here’s a big *virtual* whiskey to drown your sorrows in… 🙂
Goes down smooth, like a warm hug
Careful. Those virtual hangovers are bad!
I’ll cut myself off if necessary!
Okay my pub friends, I am off to yoga class (for my sanity). So hold on to your glasses and mugs, I’ll be back later this evening to catch back up.
Yoga sounds wonderful.. I used to do that a couple of years ago, but it took too much time… but for me it’s bed-time. 🙂
Have a good night Bjorn and see you tomorrow ~
A friend taught us some chair yoga and were not that immobile yet but it’s great for a quick daily stretch to keep our muscles strong and then meditate on the chair too!
Caramel macchiato, please.
Coming up ~ Thanks for dropping by 🙂
Thanks for covering for me Grace!
Hey everyone,
This poem is written in loving memory of my cousin.. who passed away a few years ago.. I was never able to tell her how much she meant to me 😦 perhaps this poem will reach her somehow.
Sharing my poem “Now that you’re gone” hope you all like it.
Lots of love,
Sanaa
Very touching and sad, Sanaa. I wish I had read your explanation here before I read / commented on your poem….
Thanks for your kind comment Mary 🙂 it means a lot that you care
Your poem is lovely, a beautiful tribute.
Thanks Kelly 🙂 I’m glad you liked it.
Ayala,
Just wanted to let you know I updated your link to your new poem ~ Thanks for dropping by ~
Kelly, this prompt has produced a lot of touching poetry…very intense. Thanks for taking us there.
I agree Victoria, there was so much to read, and I feel moved by all of it.
Rereading this, I see that I really didn’t write for the spirit of the prompt. Sorry about that. My mind went to wistful recollection of the past.
I might do a second one more in keeping with the prompt. But I know right now, I won’t come near to what you have all put out there today. I’m just really touched by all of it, by your honesty and openness. Thank you.
Thanks so much, I am really enjoying everyone’s responses.
I decided to do a post. It may not fit because I have no regrets. If it isn’t fitting, I don’t mind if it is removed because I understand. Thanks. I may also break my rule and be a link and runner – but probably this weekend, I may feel like reading these. These poems are hard for me this week.
It’s perfectly fitting… My point about regret was only to act as a reminder… Something I am working on myself with people in my life that I love that I know won’t be here forever, following a loss that left me full of regret.
I am so sorry about your SamCat, I know how hard that is. I’m glad you gave us a little glimpse of how loved he was.
Thank you
I would guess this theme would be especially difficult for you, Toni. God bless.
This is a prompt that brought forth the best poetry I have read in a long time. Hope we will see a few more.
Yes, some really beautiful pieces, and I am loving all the different ways the prompt has been interpreted.
Ah, so this is Poetry Pub? Very moving and I too lost a friend of my age last year. My first friend from when I was about 3. I am still finding out how much she did mean to me. Maybe I should try a poem as I do write poetry but more now and again…
That’s really sad and hopefully poetry can help you in your grieving process ~
Welcome and nice to meet you ~ Please check out our schedule (up there) and feel free to share any poem tomorrow for OpenLinkNight ~
So glad you have checked it out. Working hospice, I found that poetry and art are wonderful ways to work through loss. We hope you will join us often. Your blog is beautiful and I’ve enjoyed visiting off and on for a while.
Thanks and have been inspired to write a poem for the friend I did lose to leukaemia last year. So am busy on it now! And maybe there’s a reason I am grieving more than I thought I would…
Great!
Yes, I am still,working through this loss, still uncovering unexpected feelings. And poetry does really seem to help us work through these things. Welcome!
Thanks, have written a comment below and poem. Struggling to find how to link you both on my post
I’m new here and joyfully add my response. Am off to read those of some other’s! 🙂
I have approved your comment 🙂 Welcome and nice to meet you 🙂
Please check out our Schedule (up there) and join us for poetry sharing (any poem) this Thursday!
Thank you very much! Will do!
Nice to meet you here… yes we have two bars per week… 🙂 and every second week it’s totally open… and I think I will tend the bar.. (need to do some shopping tonight)
Oh I look forward to your prompt!
Yeah! Welcome. I look forward to seeing your poem.
Welcome! I really enjoyed your piece.
Thank you, Kelly!
A beautiful, emotive subject, Kelly. Even though I’m rather late to the prompt and haven’t got the time to write anything, I may well use it later as an inspiration for OLN. And I look forward to reading the linked poems!
And OLN is just around the corner..
Ah, I didn’t say which OLN it was going to be… Unfortunately, I won’t be able to link anything this Thursday, as I have a deadline on Friday and I’ll be in a meeting all Thursday evening as well.
There is always a next OLN.
Looking forward to reading what you come up with, Marina!
Hi, thanks to Victoria and Kelly I have written a poem to my first friend who died last year and who I did not get to spend much time with in her last moments. I know some of my sadness is for the time I thought we would have been able to have together and sharing some of our memories. She always seemed to remember something I had forgotten, like the ginger beer my mum used to make! So I’ll have a ginger beer please!
Just as I finished reading your poem and was posting a comment on Wednesday night, my internet went out, but I’m so glad you decided to join in. I really loved your piece, very lovely with all the layers.
Hello Georgina Wright, your link is taking me to the Reader instead of to your page
When I click on Georgina Wright’s name it does nothing. So sorry I’m unable to visit.
Thanks to Bjorn who I think corrected the link. Hope it works better and thanks for all your positive responses.
Sorry everyone, my internet went out on Wednesday night and just came back up this morning. Thanks to all who participated, really loved reading all your pieces. (And I will catch up today on anyone I missed.)
Thank you…wanted to say your prompt inspired…I’ve been short on online time lately…life!
Here’s what I wrote https://wordrustling.wordpress.com/2015/10/30/incomplete-3/
Hi Hannah,
You can put the link in OpenLinkNight post, which is still open now ~ Thanks for joining in ~
Thank you, Grace!