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Alex Elle, Arshile Gorky, Cat Stevens, change, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, grief, Joseph Brodsky, loss, Wesley McNair
Good Tuesday, d’Versians! It’s Lisa, with Poetics. I know Spring is a time for new life, the end of a long winter, and hope is walking beside us along the path. Why then, does my mind turn to death and loss? Along with the light of Spring also walks the shadow of death in the forms of war, pestilence, environmental destruction, the quickly-approaching depletion of fossil energy fuel to power our machines, and billionaires desperately trying to get off of the planet while there is time.
loss, by Alex Elle:
the question is as hard as
swallowing rocks and as
brutal as stormy waters
crashing to shore.
The question is not always why,
but how do we let go without
falling apart – without crumbling
from loosening our grip on what
was and what could have been.
Life and death don’t apply only to living organisms. It can apply to ways of living, ways of thinking, ways of feeling. Like a tree grows, gradual change seems to suit our species best. But what happens when change is thrust upon us, without any consent or preparation? How many of us were prepared for Covid? How many for sweeping environmental disasters that are peppering the planet more and more? How many are adjusting to the wanton attacks in Europe by the Russian Psychopath? These unasked-for and unprepared-for changes are asking each of us to adjust our ways of doing and being that it is difficult to fully keep up with, especially when they have been compounded over the past few years; and honestly, show no signs of abating.
Excerpt from, “Constancy,” by Joseph Brodsky:
To die, to abandon a family, to go away for good,
to change hemispheres, to let new ovals
be painted into the square—the more
volubly will the gray cell insist
on its actual measurements, demanding
daily sacrifice from the new locale,
from the furniture, from the silhouette in a yellow
dress; in the end—from your very self.
From the Elizabeth Kubler Ross Foundation website:
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. (July 8, 1926 – August 24, 2004) was a Swiss-born psychiatrist, a pioneer in Near-death studies and the author of the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying (1969,) where she first discussed what is now known as the Kübler-Ross model. In this work she proposed the now famous Five Stages of Grief™ as a pattern of adjustment. These five stages of grief are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The five stages have since been adopted into The Kübler-Ross Change Curve™ by many corporations to train employees in change and loss.
Losses by Wesley McNair
It must be difficult for God, listening
to our voices come up through his floor
of cloud to tell Him what’s been taken away:
Lord, I’ve lost my dog, my period, my hair,
all my money. What can He say, given
we’re so incomplete we can’t stop being
surprised by our condition, while He
is completeness itself? Or is God more
like us, made in His image—shaking His head
because He can’t be expected to keep track
of which voice goes with what name and address,
He being just one God. Either way, we seem
to be left here to discover our losses, everything
from car keys to larger items we can’t search
our pockets for, destined to face them
on our own. Even though the dentist gives us
music to listen to and the assistant looks down
with her lovely smile, it’s still our tooth
he yanks out, leaving a soft spot we ponder
with our tongue for days. Left to ourselves,
we always go over and over what’s missing—
tooth, dog, money, self-control, and even losses
as troubling as the absence the widower can’t stop
reaching for on the other side of his bed a year
later. Then one odd afternoon, watching something
as common as the way light from the window
lingers over a vase on the table, or how the leaves
on his backyard tree change colors all at once
in a quick wind, he begins to feel a lightness,
as if all his loss has led to finding just this.
Only God knows where the feeling came from,
or maybe God’s not some knower off on a cloud,
but there in the eye, which tears up now
at the strangest moments, over the smallest things.
Today’s challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to choose one or more of Kubler-Ross’ stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) to write about, in relation to your, or another’s, current state of being. Or maybe you aren’t in any of these stages at all. Write about that. There will be few restrictions on the writing challenge today.
If you are new, here’s how to join in:
•Write a poem in response to the challenge.
•Enter a link directly to your poem and your name by clicking Mr Linky below and remember to check the little box to accept the use/privacy policy.
•You will find links to other poets and more will join, so check back later to read their poems.
•Read and comment on other poets’ work–we all come here to have our poems read.
•Please link back to dVerse from your site/blog.
Sources:
Alex Elle’s poem here
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross foundation website here
Joseph Brodsky’s poem here
Wesley McNair’s poem here
Top image: “Garden in Sochi,” by Arshile Gorky found here
Aeon Flux’ image here
Welcome Everybody! It’s that time again. The bar is open and the snacks are ready to be served. What’ll ya have?
Well, Lisa … this is a pretty heavy topic … make mine a glass of bubbly. Maybe two.
Welcome, Helen. Yes it is. As heavy as spring rain pounding down on new blossoms. One double-sized glass of bubbly coming up. Cheers!
Hi Li and others. Some thoughts were weighing heavy on my mind. Li, you provided an outlet. This is more of a stream of consciousness kind of unedited rant. May tweak it later.
I loved what you shared. Off to bed now. Will catch up with reading in the morning.
Welcome, Punam. I’m glad the prompt is giving you an opportunity to relieve your mind of some heavy weight. Thank you, my friend. Will look for you in the morning.
My pleasure. 🙂
Hello Lisa, I will not write tonight… we were out for dinner (having tapas and beer) and now it’s too late to write for me… maybe I will try to mix this with a later prompt…
Welcome, Bjorn. Glad you were able to get out for dinner among others. Have sweet dreams, my friend.
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hi lisa
hi poets
this got me remembering getting angry at a bully.
thanks rog
Welcome Rog. Bullies do know how to push buttons. Looking forward to seeing what you wrote.
what an inspiring post, a woman to my heart who wrote that – and with a prompt to boot; thanks Lisa!
Welcome, Barbara. Very happy you were moved to write to the prompt.
I had the great fortune to attend several of Kubler-Ross’s live lectures, I worked in hospice care at that time so it was professionally relevant. Her real heartache was that too many were taking those 5 stages too literally … they’d missed the point that there might be a dozen more stages, and that we go in and out of them, maybe even skip some completely.
In other words it’s not a fixed progressive recipe ….
Being a subject close to my heart I hope to add something to your collection Lisa if time allows. Thanks for an inspiring one and for bringing KR and these fascinating poems to our attention!
Welcome, Kate! Good to see you. Thank you so much for sharing your personal connection to Kubler-Ross and educating on the process of grief. It doesn’t surprise me that you worked in hospice care before. I look forward to what you add to the collection if you have time to do it. Peace ❤
thanks so much Lisa
ha ha got there sooner than I thought, Punam’s response inspired mine!
Awesome, Kate! I had a LONG day and just woke up from a nap. Hitting the poetry trail now…
oh Lisa, the task of a convenor seems arduous, thanks to all of you for your efforts 🙂
❤
You’re welcome.
Heavy topic for heavy day. Feeling a bit depressed these days, but no i chose to write on DENIAL
Vodka and something for me with ice cubes
much💛love
Welcome, Gillena. Yes, it is a heavy day here also. Looking forward to reading your poem on denial. I will make you one of my favorite drinks: Raspberry vodka with cranberry juice on ice in a tall glass. Cheers!
Hi Lisa, Your prompt caught me and I found myself snared in a feeling from long ago. So I think I may need a large glass of red please!
Welcome, Marion. Can’t wait to see what you wrote. One large glass of red coming up. Cheers!
An interesting challenge, Lisa. I love your presentation. Thank you for hosting!
Welcome. Dwight, thank you so much. I’ve been going through some times that call to these stages over and over again and so thought to build a prompt challenge around them. My pleasure on hosting. Looking forward to seeing what you write to it.
I like the poems that you featured in this post, especially the first one.
Welcome, Jenna. I’m glad you connected with the included poems. They resonated with me as well.
This is a very powerful prompt. I’ve written to it, but I’m not sure it’s something I can share right now!
Welcome, Sarah, thank you. No worries if the time to share is not now ❤
Jade, this prompt brought to my mind someone and something I haven’t thought about for a long time. It’s about someone else’s grief, but I realize I’m still grieving too, both for her, and for our lost friendship. (K)
Welcome, Kerfe. I’m glad you were taken back to that place and wrote about it. I am walking to the poetry trail to read what you wrote in just a minute…
Ah, Lisa, a meaty one, and confronting the real stuff, thank you (I think), cut my teeth on Kubler-Ross, what a gift she has been. Some denial whiskey please.
Welcome, Paul, and thank you for your kind comment. I am not surprised you know Kubler-Ross well. :::pouring a double shot of denial whiskey::: for each of us. Cheers, my friend!
Thank you Lisa, a great brew 🙂 and, yes, I guess those of us of a certain age will have benefitted from the great woman, what a gift.
My pleasure, Paul.
Lisa, your prompt was just the trigger I needed to write about this week’s devastating news.
Welcome, Alexandra. Oh no, I’m sorry to hear you’ve had devastating news this week. Going to the poetry trail to read right now…
Tried to load a second but failed twice.
I just went to Mr. Linky and they all worked for me. I will take 2 of them out.
Thank you so much Lisa, sorry that i created that little havoc.
You’re welcome, and no trouble at all.
🙂
Paul, just double-checking. Did you submit 2 poems? I deleted two of the links but then saw a different title to one of them and re-added it to Mr. Linky. If it isn’t right, please let me know.
yes two submitted but also two dead links – all my own brilliant work, lol
🙂
Thank you for hosting Lisa. Your prompt is right on point for me. Was at hospital yesterday. Having it been finally confirmed yesterday that I’m entering stage 4 CHF, and with preparation for yet another heart operation underway this week for me, my thoughts have fallen to my father, whom I lost to a heart condition. He was my hero, and to this day, I miss him so very very much. He was a strong man. I am looking in meditation to him, as I am about to enter yet another operation. Two days of pre-operation testing is done. The blockages have all been mapped by nuclear isotopes. I am just waiting to hear from my cardiologist what time I check in. Done this twice before, but each time it is unsettling. Hope doc’s hands are steady again this time
Rob, I’m so sorry to hear you have to go through a heart operation and that you’ve had them before. Hoping you can take yourself to that quiet clearing in the woods while it is happening and keep your heart at a good pace during the procedure. You know I will be thinking about you and vibing peace to your heart. {{{HUGS}}}
I can’t get mr linky to work anymore so I’ll just send my link.
Cheryl, I fixed your link. It’s working now 🙂
Can you send me a copy of it? I’m having trouble with it. My email has changed and I usually just copy the url text sending the post to myself but now my email has all changed form🙄. Thanks a lot!
https://rugby843.blog/2022/05/04/dverse-poetics-4/
Thanks!
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I enjoyed writing for this one. Thank you, Lara, for hosting and chosing the form.
Lara, I liked your answers to Neruda set. But WordPress won’t let me use my signed in account THAT APPEARS WHEN I PUSH THE “MUST SIGN IN” button in the comments . When I go there my Photo pops up with my sign in address and “Jim” beneath. Pushing the “CONTINUE ” button gets me back as if I’d signed in. But the comments section doesn’t recognize me. We GO IN CIRCLES.
The type sign-in that is used here recognizes me just fine.
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Jim I forwarded this message to Laura, who did the Thursday prompt. Hoping she can help you.
https://kenhume31.wordpress.com/2022/05/07/comes-and-goes/?preview=true Here’s my offering on the 5 stages of grief! 👍
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